154: Get The Best Out Of Your Board & Back To Board Basics II – Tony Martignetti Nonprofit Radio

Tony’s guests this week:

Allison Chernow is director of external affairs at Bronx Museum

Terry Billie is director of corporate and foundation relations at Goodwill Industries of NY & NJ

Holly Bellows is chief development officer for Helen Keller National Center

Gene Takagi, principal of the Nonprofit & Exempt Organizations Law Group

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Hello and welcome to tony martignetti non-profit radio, where we’re talking about big non-profit ideas for the other ninety five percent. I’m your aptly named host. Oh, i hope you were with me last week. You would cause me to go into cardiogenic shock if i learned that you had missed fermentation sandorkraut cats is a fermenter. We talked about the history, benefits and methods of fermenting foods and volunteermatch making scott koegler, our technology contributor and the editor of non-profit technology news, shared ideas about tech that matches willing volunteers with seeking charities this week, all aboard. First, get the best out of your board our panel shares wisdom on identifying, recruiting, training, engaging and transitioning board members. I talked to allison char now, terry, billy and holly bellows at fund-raising day in june and back to board basics, do you, jane takagi are legal contributor returns to contribute to continue our discussion on soundboard practices? This time, we’ll talk about term limits, how often you’re bored should meet having automatic removal provisions and very young trustees that’s young in age, not in how they’re acting, and jean is principal of the non-profit exempt organizations law group between the guests on tony’s take to my beth cantor interview is on video, and i feel i let you down last week, and i’m going to explain that right now. We have the interview from fund-raising day this past june, where we’re talking about getting the best out of your board, and here is that welcome to tony martignetti non-profit radio coverage of fund-raising day two thousand thirteen where at the marriott marquis hotel in times square, midtown new york city and we’re talking now about board relations. My guests are it’s needed most closest closest to meet holly bellows, chief development officer of helen keller’s services for the blind. Next to her is terry billy, director of corporate and foundation relations for goodwill industries of new york and new jersey. And we also have allison for now director of external affairs for the bronx museum of the arts ladies welcome. Thank you. Thank you. It’s. A pleasure to have you. Your seminar topic is bored. Relations getting the best out of your trustees. No, let’s start far away. Allison, can we start with recruitment? What? What? What’s? Some advice around identifying and recruiting the right boardmember well for museum. We have a lot of opportunities for cultivation of perspective, trustees. We looked to people who come to many of our events. We sort of noticed repeat attendees way start plucking them out. We invite them to special private events. We find that people are very attracted to sort of exclusive private events, not generally open to the public. So we invite them to dinners or preview openings of exhibitions and that’s how we generate interests, and we see if they respond to that we just keep cultivating more and generally that’s, that’s way, tio sort of notice and pounce on perspective prospects. We also use other trustees to help us, and they bring along people whom they think would be a fit for the museum to two events as well. Okay, i mean, i sort of go down the line on different topics. Teri, you have anything you’d like to add about identifying the right people? Well, we’re different kind of agency were a social service ages. We don’t really have events or exhibitions or things like that that people would come to so instead we have to really go the traditional route, which is working with our trustees to see if they have friends or colleagues or others that might come be interested in working with our organization or we go toe on organizations such as bored source to do recruitment. Two or two funders, corporations, foundations that might be interested in supporting us in a different way through ford relations. Okay, so you’re relying more on your board because you don’t have those cultivation events. By the way, terry, i want to welcome you back to the show. Thank you. Chatted with you this time last year. How about you, holly? Like they have that goodwill industries is doing well differently. Well, we’re also human service organization. We serve the blind, and those were deaf blind. And so we have the same process as terry. We look for people who are already within the organization. People that know people that want to be committed for the long along home. Okay? And i apologize. I confused you with i’m sorry, terry. I’m here with goodwill industries and holly. Of course, you’re with falik falik color this’s blind. Thank you very much. Coach me on each individual word. Now i have it. Holly’s with helen keller services for the blind. Thank you, but no, thank you. Thank you for saving me. Okay, after we’ve way haven’t identified the right people way have to start. Teo, make conversation a lot more serious. Terry, how do we how do we go about that? Well, we work with a development committee. In fact, i had my development kitty meet committee meeting last night, which we met with five of our board members. And we talked about the different things that were doing to raise money. And we talked about developed direct mail cultivation events and funding alerts for possible corporate foundation connections, finding out what they’d like to do, how they like to help. And so that’s that’s, how we work with our board, we have a lot of other board members that in war policy driven, so they’re not so much into fund-raising so we have to use them as ambassadors they’re not so comfortable in. They get scared about fund-raising and what the expectations will be have to have to come out in the recruitment process. Right? Right. Would you say holly? This is critical. We need to be up front. How do you how do you do that? Helen keller. Well, right now i weigh had a board meeting on monday morning and a golf tournament afterwards. And so i i spoke with the board that i will be interviewing them over the next couple of months. Existing existing board, the existing board. Okay, and on that will be part of the question is, we also had a former board members come to the golf tournament to reinforce the other ties to the organization, and i will be interviewing them, too. And so is part of that process reaching out to not only what they’re interested interests are going forward, but, you know, looking for prospects and, you know, foundations as well as their personal connections for future board development. Imagine it’s it’s it’s important not to be trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Different board members have different interests. Aptitudes abilities, right? They can all come to the board for different reasons. Maybe they had someone in their family that is blind or deaf blind. Or maybe it just seems like a really cool thing to do. They learned about helen keller in third grade here in new york state. And they want teo you. Know, be a part of it. So various everyone has various reasons why they want to be on the board, and we want to exploit those personalities and and credentials, right? That’s, right? Some people they may not be able to get give from their personal wealth or their corporate wealth, but they are connected to lots of people who may be able to give to us or a foundation. I interviewed someone earlier today who uses is actually sort of ah, trainer on linked in hey uses, linked in board, connect on trains, organizations to use linked in board, connect to any of you use that for identifying potential board members. Anybody? Yes, that’s one of the things that we are planning to grow our board in the coming fiscal year fiscal starts in july, so we will be using board, connect as one of the tools and dish in tow board source to reach out and look for a new board members. So you haven’t used board connect yet? No. Yeah. Okay. Okay. I do plan to use it, though, so you’re so holy. You’re aware. Also aboard. Connect. I’m aware of it, but i haven’t used it. I’m creating a separate committee. A cz i told you before the interview. I’m hyre helmsley. We have a grant from the helmsley found charitable foundation and one of their charges tow us is to create a aboard for one of our programs so that we can attract funders and people who are interested in serving the deaf blind. And so i’m going to be using it soon to look for people across the country that might want to become members of this committee. Alison to make this aa two way street. How does the organization identify what it has to offer board members in return for their for their service? Right? Well, when we interview a prospect way really try and find out what? What is it that draws them to the museum? What is their interest? And for us, we have, ah, large education component. We have the whole art collection component, so they’re different reasons why a trustee would join the board of the museum. So we try and suss out what that will be. And i find a commonality is that they want to learn more. They often want to learn more about art. So for those who do, we put them on the acquisitions committee, and that way they can meet artists, and they can learn all that are they come to gallery tours. We sort of feel what? What is it that attracts them? So for others, it’s education, and they want to be part of the whole education programs. 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Interested simply email at info at talking alternative dot com and just while we’re still on this recruitment process, terry, how i said, terri and i looked at allison mary-jo terry, how do you explain the organization’s expectations? Is it in writing, or is it just a conversation? Thie expectations around all all the functions of a boardmember it’s through conversations way actually, in the past, our board has not really been a fund-raising board, and so we’re in the process of kind of transforming and educating our board as to their financial responsibility, even though that’s something that most people understand that that is one of the reasons why you become aboard is to support the organization, unfortunately, we have boardmember is that have not made a gif right? And so we need to have the conversation with them and to say that we need one hundred percent support, it doesn’t mean that you need to give us one hundred thousand dollars. You can give us five thousand dollars, you could give us three thousand dollars, you need to give us something so that’s one of our challenges with our organization, with a board that we are working through, even though we’re jumping way ahead in the boardmember life. Cycle that could be an indicator that it’s time for a boardmember step down exactly. In fact, we just started a new campaign to attract the millennials, the young twenties and thirty somethings to start, eh? Maybe a young, not so much a board, but a council we’re going to call the good the good counsel, and they’re going to be younger people that we want to get involved and engaged and so that they could eventually turn into board members. So we’re starting with the youth, starting with they’re all about cause marketing and the finding ways to make a difference by their volunteering, so we’re going to be working with them to do that, and then eventually, you know, have them start their own, like little special events and cultivation and awareness and marketing, and then eventually waken see floats to the top and hopefully get him on board. Okay, back-up another step, let’s say we’ve recruited the boardmember we need to keep that person active, engaged who wants to talk about keeping a boardmember active and engaged way have we’re fortunate that we have a vehicle for doing that, we can invite them to openings and too many events, but it’s really also about having them see the inner workings, lights, lights just dimmed here. Nothing wrong for those of you watching the video on youtube, there’s nothing wrong with your vision. The overhead lights all just went out here. Marriott marquis. But we’re continuing. We have our own lights powered battery so doesn’t doesn’t interrupt back on. Okay, no, don’t adjust your sets. Everything is fine. Okay? I’m sorry. Go ahead. So for example, that the trustees who are interested in education way let them come and see the classrooms that come to the museum to see the work in progress and to see the work that we do so it’s very important that they come in and see all the grassroots work that’s that’s happening. And the other thing is that we just try to make them feel special. I mean, we try to write letters that are personalized for them that nobody else could get, so that they would feel that, you know, they in fact do make a difference there. So, you know the gratitude combined with hands on and really seeing what what’s going on works to really keep them interested. Invested? In it good, great, it isn’t. One of the things that i have begun doing is whenever we get a grant or a large donation, even a small donation, but we are an organization that’s been around for one hundred twenty years or more, and so we have lots of get small gifts that we get and half for a long time, but i ask different board members to call the foundation or call the person and just a thank you they don’t ask for anything, but to in that way, they’re learning more about that organization, and they’re feeling connected and that’s been a real positive response that i’m getting. So as i said, we’ve been around for a long time, we have many donorsearch couldn’t call everyone they are picking up more and more that they can do. So. Holly, how about training training the new boardmember what does that look like for for helen keller way haven’t i haven’t started training yet since i’ve been since october, but what that will look like is for is creating a talking points and some role playing for those that haven’t gone out and ask for money, paring them with someone who has done it and feels comfortable with it, having conversations about their experience on other boards. It’s, interesting custom, many of our boardmember serve on other boards on, sometimes they’ve gone out and made asking some have not so it’s going to be a combination of things here teach person’s comfort level. At the very least, i tell boardmember sze in in the past that invite the person to join you, make your donation in first and then in fight uh, your prospect to join them if you just can’t really say, can you give x amount of dollars so that’s a nice, non threatening way to get started and asking for money. Allison, how about training the new boardmember bronx museum of the arts? What does that look like? Well, we have a retreat on annually and in terms of role playing, there was a facilitator who came and your role played about making an ask and talking about the priorities for the museum, so it was really a time it was a very concentrated long day dahna meeting the other board members really learning about the mission and learning how to move it forward howto ask. And how to do that. Nut’s involves metoo holly, it sounded almost like you have ah, maybe a mentor mentee relationship for board members is that? Is that is that overstating? No, it didn’t help that a senior boardmember mike, you that’s correct, my position is newly created position, and part of that is to help our board became come more of a fund-raising board many of our programs our government funded, so there wasn’t a need in the past to be a fund-raising board and many organizations like helen keller, are transitioning from having helly government funded programs to where they’re going to have to go out for private gifts, and they’ll get bored members more senior boardmember help with that, terry. Anyway, you want to add about training the new boardmember right that’s, exactly the same situation that good will in addition to having individual individuals support, we have also had in the past a lot of government funding, so asking board members to help with raising money is a somewhat new angle for them. So what we’ve been doing is bringing on a different new board members, for example, way just havin a new boardmember from j p morgan chase, who has been on other boards and has done fund-raising so he is kind of going to be a example or role model to the other board members to show show them how easy and painless it is, but we do have to identify tasks board members who just can’t do fund-raising or maybe maybe won’t? Well, maybe won’t takes little training, but they’re just they’re timid. They’re terrified of it. Terry, what do we identify other things that that boardmember could do around fund-raising right, right. Other than asking right it’s it’s getting them to come to different events or different cultivation events, too, talk, be an ambassador, so they’re not asking for money. They’re building awareness, they’re talking to their friends about what they do about what goodwill does and sharing the passion about what the organization’s all about and really building awareness, not so much asking for money. If they’re afraid of asking for money, they could be a representative and record. For those who are afraid, teo, ask or it’s just uncomfortable for them. We often say what we need you to do is identify potential trustees, advocate cultivate b passionate and then we come in that’s our job and the and the executive director’s stopped to come in and do the ask, so it takes the awkwardness and the onus away from them, and they feel that they can just freely invite a guest without the worry of having to do the actual ask, okay, how about may be hosting an event? They could perhaps open their home? Holly other tasks that again trying to identify things that people who will solicit can still be involved in around fund-raising well, i have someone on our board who is an attorney, and that person uses their personal skills to review documents that are very important to fund-raising such as st charitable registrations for things like that that are very important documents that keep my department moving and keep us legal and transparent, but that’s not at, you know, going out, asking for money, but it is very important to the movement of the organization. So, yes, there are other task that besides fund-raising the other part of my practice, besides plan e-giving is the charity registration i wrote. I wrote a new book on how to do-it-yourself you and i do the registrations for charities i don’t want to do. Them so very well acquainted with that enormous morass called charity registration. Terry, we’re gonna have something. Yeah, just the same thing is asking people to host a breakfast, maybe at the club, maybe at a restaurant they go to or at there. If they have a nice house or an apartment to host something again to invite their friends or people that we want to get more engaged, all they need to do is be the be the host they don’t need to ask. Okay? And we do that also especially we play in the bronx nostalgia. So we have people hosting private problem bronze talk to sow bronx artists from storytellers. We really emphasize the bronx and have these very small, intimate events at people’s homes, and those people who host often become interested because they posted they become vested. And then the whole positive spiral happens where they want to get more involved. It’s great. How about the i don’t know the recalcitrant boardmember who just either can’t do it? I won’t do it. Or that you could. But it’s just not too. Is that person need to be transitioned off the board? How do we how? Do we finesse that situation or they’re recalcitrant? Maybe about or maybe there their attendance is very poor. Maybe they are. Maybe they’re great fundraisers, but their attendance is back. You start to see these signs, how do we want to take the first shot that way? Especially the previous job i had at a small museum. It’s, very hard because in a small shop you get to develop relationships with your trustees and you realized, especially in the economic downturn in the past years, that life happens that trustees have goes divorces, they go through bad business times, and that may account for they’re not coming there, not being able to give. And i think in a small place where you built intimacy it’s really important to have some flexibility to give them, for example, if you know there’s a personal situation to give them a year or so, it is sorted out and have a little bit of leeway. On the other hand, you know, once you do that and it continues, i think then that’s, when the board president needs to talk to the boardmember find out what’s going on and have a really frank discussion about whether it’s working for both people often they’re relieved to be let off the hook. Okay, mary-jo you’re tense, that’s totally familiar with me. I mean, we in my past organisations and in this one you have sometimes people that you just know that they’re heading out because they haven’t shown up wave a big gold wheel or a rappel wheel in the four in the booth next to us. That’s what you’re hearing it’s not we’re not giving any other way, but with next to us is giving away t shirts, caps, mugs or ipad mini being in the drawing for a night. So that’s that’s what you’re hearing going so, you know, we just recently had one of our board members say that she needed to step down because life changes and different areas of interest abila different, different levels of interest in what we’re doing, we’re already priorities changed, and she said she would continue to support the organization, but she needed, you know, she just couldn’t make it to meetings, and we knew that because she hadn’t been to meetings in like, a whole year that starts to hurt ford morale generally, i mean other board. Members who are making the time fine, making time making effort start to get resentful everything right? Holly? Yes. Okay, anything you want to add more about thie transitioning off boardmember i just sort of playing what you’re doing in terms of building up a younger constituency in my past job and now in the bronx museum, trying to build a board a parallel board. It’s called the leadership council, which conserve as a farm team for future board members and also as a retirement place for trustees. Who can’t you know, the financial onus is too great as trusting, but there’s a lesser amount expected as from a leadership council member. So it’s nice to have a transition. You’re keeping them in the fold, keeping them interested. But they don’t have all the responsibilities and duties of a trusting. Do we each have term limits for boardmember ship? No, none of you have term limits. Really that’s interesting. And that’s, you know, that’s. A very double edged thing. Because in my former job we had founder syndrome. You know trustees who had been there a long time. Really? Basically. So i ran the board de facto it’s very tough. And it really made me understand why term limits would be good. On the other hand, when you have donors who give these were our biggest donors, it’s very tough to give up financial support that they provide so that’s one motivating reasons to have this other board where they could go as well. Anybody thinking about adding board limits, we would like normal social. Yeah, we would like to add term limits, that’s something that we need to have a discussion with the board president and make some changes so that we’re hoping that we can implement that, then they’re coming here, ok, way happening had that discussion on at this point way have long serving board members who and she said, contribute and are active, and i don’t want to say goodbye to them because they’re valuable to the organization and we love them. So ish, as she said it, zo double in. Okay, we have about a minute left or so anybody want one talk about anything that i didn’t ask you about, that you’re it’s on your mind because you’re doing your seven or in a couple of hours about the board relationship hyre final final final thoughts? No, nobody. Okay, well, we’ll leave it there. All right, thank you. Oh, my god. Thank you. Thank you all very much. Thank you. Say that. Remind listeners and viewers that holly bellows is chief development officer of helen keller services for the blind. And terry billy is director of corporate and foundation relations for goodwill industries of new york and new jersey. On up, of course. Alison looking for your name here? Alison? Sure. Now sorry. Director of external affairs in the bronx. Regime of the arts, ladies. Thank you very much. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Thank you for being with me. Tony martignetti non-profit radio coverage of fund-raising day two thousand thirteen i love that roulette wheel in the in the background they were giving away the big prize was an ipad mini so i heard that in a bunch of interviews always nice to have a little little pleasant background music for an interview. And my thanks, of course. Also to the organizer’s at fund-raising day i’ve got some live listener love moscow in the russian federation and in china, taiwan, guangzhou, wuhan and beijing. Ni hao i’ve been to beijing and of into wuhan, also, and seoul in south korea, on yo haserot in japan, hiroshima, metallica and tokyo. Lovett konnichi wa there’s. Plenty of domestic live listeners will get to them in a couple of minutes. Right now, we go to a break when we come back, tony’s, take two, and then gene takagi, continuing our are all aboard day with back to board basics, do keep listening. 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The video is now on my blogged you may recall, she is the author of the network to non-profit and measuring the network to non-profit we talked about riel online engagement and had a measure your success in your online efforts. That video is on my blogged at tony martignetti dot com, and i think i let you down. Last week i tried a new segment called out of the blue, and my intention was to bring things bring in people who have you are supporting non-profits but are doing work that’s not directly related to non-profits on dh sandora cats was the fermenter who are brought in, and he was terrific. He was delightful, but a zay was listening to him, and then i replayed it during the week, you know, i was kind of struck with why what? Is it why we listening? What does this have to do with non-profits it’s just not close enough to non-profits he supports non-profits um, but we didn’t talk much about that and that’s not really. Why you listen, is tto find out why people support non-profits i mean, at least not from one person’s perspective. S o we’re not goingto i’m not going to continue that out of the blue i what my intention was was to try to recognize that people who work in non-profits have lots of interests that have nothing to do with non-profits i read all the profiles of new twitter followers, and a lot of people comment on food that their food either to cook, ah, a lot of people coming on their kids, wine is a pretty popular one, different sports, so, you know, so that got me thinking people are multidemensional and maybe we should bring in some other dimensions besides non-profits and i thought a fermenter was a great place to start, but you have plenty of other podcasts, tens or hundreds of thousands of other podcast that you can go to to satisfy all those multidemensional interests that you have and i don’t think it’s right for me to try toe satisfy all those we have our niche here non-profits and picking the brains of experts to help people in non-profits that’s my mission here on this podcast, there’s plenty of other outlets for youto satisfy all those other interests that you have, so i think i let you down. We’re not going to continue out of the blue. We’re going tow. Focus more on on the core and that is tony’s take two for friday the today’s the ninth of august, the thirty second show of the year. I’m very happy to bring back jane takagi he’s, the principal of neo the non-profit and exempt organizations law group in san francisco he edits the very popular non-profit law blogged dot com and on twitter he is at gi tak gt a k welcome back, jean takagi. Hi, tony it’s. Great to be back. Thank you. I can tell you’re smiling i couldjust always telling you i could tell when you’re smiling. It’s ah it’s. Wonderful to have your energy even from san francisco. I feel it great. I’m conveying that over the phone. You absolutely are. Yes, we started this. Conversation back to board basics two weeks ago, july twenty six so you can go back and listen to that if you missed it, jean and i are going to pick up where we left off, and that was with term limits. Question of whether there should even be term limits. What’s your what’s what’s the advice around that gene. Well, first piece advice tony’s to check with your state laws because individual state laws may vary. My understanding is that under in most states, that there are no term limits, meaning that a boardmember could get reelected onto the board over and over and over again, without any restriction of the law, unless the organization’s by-laws say otherwise. So then it depends upon the individual board thinking about, well, what are the good things about keeping board members on potentially forever? Versace? What is the good thing about limiting how long any boardmember serves so we can get new people onto the board? Increased our diversity on pursue other things and other perspective. So that’s kind of the starting point, but i’m wondering, tony. What? What do you feel about board term limits if you’re serving on the board? I’m i’m pretty pro term limits. Um, in fact, i was just on a phone call this morning with someone who works at the gnu heimans center she’s an instructor there, and i mentioned that you and i are going to talk about this very subject and she said has to be bored limits has to be, yeah, i like them, i think that they they boardmember could be extended if it’s a two year term or three term, you can always extend in addition on additional term tua boardmember but after four or six or maybe even eight years, nine years, i think boardmember tze get a little stale and i’d like a fresh perspective and i think there’s other things that boardmember khun do we don’t kill them just because they leave the board, they don’t die there’s other things there’s other ways they can help that’s such a great point, tiny, and i agree with you a hundred percent, i’m there are exceptions, but i’m very much generally in the pro term limit kapin with without term limits, i think you can encourage very insular boards that get stale as you said, they could become rubber stamp. Boards just going with the flow, you may not be able to attract additional skills and perspectives of the same people are staying on the board, and you’re not bringing new people in boardmember khun get very entitled about their positions and start toe slack off a little bit, and it becomes very difficult to remove long term board members politically speaking into from a sense of relationships and when you have term limits, it really encourages bringing in those new perspectives and thoughts and skills. But the best thing you know is to make sure that when you bring in new people that you’re really engaging them and not just bringing them as tokens so that that becomes very important too. But i like your ideas of, you know, just reelecting, you know, the board members who are performing really well don’t re elect the board members that are performing poorly or unable to attend the majority of the meeting and see exactly how many terms you feel would be sufficient before you could bring in new people. The previous segment was all about keeping boardmember sze engaged from the beginning getting, you know, identifying what their passions are. So these these two segments are discussion, and the the pre recorded panel discussion are fitting together very well. Now i asked each of those three panelists if any of them had board term limits on in in their non-profits and none of them did, and one of them express the concern that their board members are major donors and they don’t want to, you know, the way she said it, they don’t want to say goodbye to them, but i do think there a said there are other things that board members khun do maybe there’s, an advisory board or something that’s, not a fiduciary capacity, legal, legal, legal duty capacity, but still meaningful and not frivolous. Yeah, i think is individuals tonny it’s natural that we like to get our egos stroked a little in there for a major donor to a non-profit to be asked to leave the board can be, uh, a difficult thing for both parties, but i agree again one hundred percent with you let’s find other rules for them. And advice report doesn’t seem to sound prestigious, but maybe emeritus board oh, it’s latin oh, that’s latin brings immediate prestige. Yeah, obviously. Okay. You know, we can we can play around with the titles of the committees and even the titles of the individual board members or former board members if we really value their contribution, we continued to engage them but have been take a term off the board and maybe if we’re not if the board is struggling to recruit and can’t find somebody, teo, take the place of the departing boardmember after term off, maybe that person can come back on again. So that may depend upon each organization but that’s, the that’s, the putin model of boardmember ship you depart and then you come on. All right, all right, well, if we’re going to implement terms, then we should talk about how long those terms should be. What, um, is there is probably not state law guidance on that kind of that. That kind of detail is there. There actually is. So there is among state laws. So some state laws, like in california, we say if you have voting members, the maximum length of a term is four years. If you don’t have voting members who elect the board, the maximum term length is six years and that’s that’s just for one one term, but doesn’t wait. I’m confused by that doesn’t every boardmember have a vote aren’t all board’s voting boards? Well, so in terms of voting members like in the auto club or a homeowner’s association where members who are not board members elect the board members? Oh, i see ok, yeah, so a lot of operations a lot, but many organizations have voting membership structures, which are much, much more administrative, burdensome and difficult to maintain, so i typically don’t recommend that for smaller public charity type organizations, but for other organizations that do have voting members, they’re subject to different, or they may be subject to different term length rules under state laws. So be careful of that there’s also a special on california that i think maybe in other states as well. That says ifyou’re by-laws and articles don’t define what a term length is it’s automatically set that one year, so many organizations get tripped up on that. They didn’t contemplate that in their by-laws and they let boardmember stay on until the board members feel like, you know they want to resign, and you’ve got to make sure that the elections are going on on a regular basis, just sort of on the side, the by-laws air are so important because our don’t state laws have lots of defaults for by-laws being silent on different issues, absolutely. Tony, you’re one hundred percent right? So if if you’re by-laws don’t contemplate something than the default will be, whatever the state could end up with a lot of things you didn’t even know you had, right? And now imagine if you’ve got a board that didn’t do proper elections and you’ve got one boardmember who voted the opposite way from everybody else and then says, well, it doesn’t matter that it was ten against one, this sport isn’t properly compose. I challenge the validity of that action that that one thing can trip up the whole board until they solve that issue. Okay, okay, so we just have, like, a minute and a half or so before a break different term, you know, i guess obviously the shorter the term, the fresher the board is going to be, but you’re going to lose, you know, institutional knowledge. Yeah. And so what is the expectation when you recruit a boardmember if you recruit a new boardmember and you say the term length is one year, they make oh, yeah, easy commitment, but they made me feel very good about serving that one year before they really got you know the organization and develop a director for that organization and then leave after one year feeling fulfilled. Meanwhile, the organization may not be very satisfied with just the one year term. Human three year are probably more common, but some lawyers actually liked the one year term because it allows boards to get rid of or shed. Directors are really not performing very well ever failing to attend meetings, failing to live up to their produce, very duties where it otherwise might be a little bit complicated. Relationship wise toe formally remove. All right, so you can get you could get rid of the trouble quickly on. You could just continue to reappoint them. And i guess if you had one year terms, you probably want they’re to be many possible successive terms allowed. Yeah. You might set your term limits that something like four or five in that case? Yeah. Okay. All right. We’re going to go away for a couple minutes, of course. Jean stays with me and hope that everybody else does, too. And we’ll get some live listener loving as soon as we come back. 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I kind of like this one term one year term, and i’ve really thought about it until you mentioned and we started talking about this topic. What if you had a first term is one year and then successive terms are two years or maybe three years? Could you do that? Yeah, absolutely. Tony there’s there’s actually a lot of room in the by-laws if you decide if the board decides it wants to spend some time to create the right structures. You could do something like, like, one year for your first term. And if everybody gets along in this thing well, to do the second term of two or three years and that might be sort of communicated to prospective board members with the understanding that the first years kind of that test period. Although everybody has their fiduciary duties to live up to. But they hope that they’ll be continued service after after that term. All right, so it also doing my classes, tony? So we could have different classes of attorneys or different classes of directors? Sorry. Lawyers? Yes, yes, everybody. The whole world is attorneys. Everybody knows that the world revolves around the all of them. And then they’re just two or three people out there who are not lawyers. Yeah. Further embarrassed, not you. You’re welcome. So, yes, we could have different classes of directors out there in some classes of directors. Could have a two year term. Some might have a three year term. Some might be prone to term limits of two term limit. Some might be subjected to classes, but how? You gonna decide how you decide who’s in which class, when i have tears and and the senior the three year member is going to look down on the lonely one year members? How you going to make those distinctions? Yeah, really top i mean, this is these air possibilities that you, khun contemplate the sea if they would fit within your organization, but yeah, creating different respect levels for remembers, but absolutely be wrong. So i understand your caution there about forming classes and maybe classes is not the right word now, but still different to you, even tears. Or, you know, however you however you euthanize it. It’s still g. She got a three year term and i only get a one year term. Why is that? We often do that originally with brand new organizations to get staggered board. So if you have a two year term and you start the initial board members everybody in two years, everybody turns off at the same time. But by staggering it, having some served three years in some serve two years and sometimes that’s done just by lottery. Believe it or not, ok, that won’t can get half the board being elected each year, i guess if it’s random, then then i could see you’d overcome at least the personality or ego concerns. All right, but what? So what are your recommendations around term limits? What is gene takagi like? I generally like to the three year term limits, although i’m not opposed to what you just suggested about having a one year initial terms and then two or three year terms after i do think that it’s important to get that commitment from directors, that it’s not just going to be this one year where we’re expecting you to serve for one year and then you can jump off and serve on another board, i’d like to see a longer term commitment and deeper bond created between the organization and its director. Okay, now, when you’re talking to non-profit clients do do they ask you, what should we do on then? Do you deflect that back to them, or how does that how do you finish that? Yeah, it’s a good question, tony, you know, i can’t get to paternal about it and just tell people what the best practices, so we have to make sure that it fits what their individual facts and circumstances are not if they’re three, you know, founders of the organization that want to be on the board and are going to champion other people, the recruitment of other people, perhaps those three founders, they’re goingto have longer terms uh then then the subsequent boardmember is that get brought on, but it really depends because we don’t want to create that class hyre key system that you suggested before, so we’ll have to take a look at stuff like that. Very careful, okay, it xero only is individual and look, look at gene is not a paternalistic attorney, one of the few you said it, so i’m sure he’s not, um, let’s, let’s look att since we’re talking about being on a board and being removed from aboard, should there be automatic removal if you’re not not performing up to snuff? Well, removal for not performing up to snuff is going to require a board decision and that’s going to be governed by state laws well, and even if state law permit sports to remove poor performing directors, practically speaking it’s, so hard to do, especially if that boardmember is also a donorsearch otherwise, support organization in other ways what we like to see is an automatic removal provisions, but only for failing to attend board meetings. So for example, if there was, you know, the board meeting’s every two months, if you fail to attend three successive board meetings without an excuse that had been approved by the board, even either before or after the fact you are automatically removed without further board action, so the board doesn’t actually have to vote to remove you. You’ve just automatically been removed, and they called me allow that. Okay, of course, then you’d want to go a little further and define does attendance mean live attendance in in person? Or can it be attendance by phone? I think it’s the state laws permit by phone than and the by-laws permitted as well, and most state laws, i would say, would permit it by phone, then you’re fine. I would count that as attendance, but if you just failed to show up at all and then it’s something else and it may be whether you’re sick or you’re you’re on sabbatical or have a valid excuse that the board is willing to say where we’re going toe not apply this removal rules because of this exception, but then the board approves to save a person they don’t approve. They don’t vote to remove a person, which is much, much harder. Yes. Ok, i see. All right, just about a minute or so before we go. What about having young people on boards if it’s appropriate to your mission? But in certain states, including new york, they have provisions for having young people onboard. Youth onboarding i think in new york you have to be above sixteen years old, and only organizations that served used or deal with issues like education or juvenile delinquency are allowed to have such boardmember okay, other states there expressly not allowed, you must be eighteen in order to do it, but most states i think forty states are silent on the issue now, it’s great to engage in engagement is the key word again. You to participate with boards and maybe having them entitled toe participate in board meetings is a great idea latto have them on the board and giving them fiduciary duties can be a little bit more problematic if you’re going to do that and there may. Be some rare exceptions where i think that that’s okay, you want to make sure that they’re not tokens and that their contributions are valid and their vote is equal to anybody, anybody? Else’s, vote on that board, you’ve got to be very careful now you can probably be held liable for breaching their fiduciary duties, although that’s not very clear, and if it was really agreed, just perhaps they could, and they can’t sign contracts on behalf of the organization because they probably wouldn’t be enforceable. So be careful about having that emily chan, my former colleague wrote a great block post called youth boardmember khun miners serve on a non-profit board that that i recommend for any organization considering having having young people on their board. Jean, we have to stop there. Is that? Is that blood post at on your block? It non-profit latto block dot com it is, and it was also captured in a non-profit quarterly article as well. Okay, thank you very much, gene. Great, thanks. 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118: 34 Things To Know About People & Get Engaged II – Tony Martignetti Nonprofit Radio

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Amy Sample Ward, membership director for NTEN and blogger at Stanford Social Innovation Review

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Durney welcome to tony martignetti non-profit radio big non-profit ideas for the other ninety five percent it’s november sixteenth i’m your aptly named host and we’re talking about big non-profit ideas for the other ninety five percent. I felt so important so strongly about that that it was necessary to say it twice in fifteen seconds. Oh, how i hope you were with me last week. I’d be mortified to learn that you had missed, as you help the next generation of social changers. Jonathan lewis is a founder of ion poverty, and he produces career advice videos with leaders in non-profit social change, his videos air free, short and valuable. As you lied and mentor twentysomethings who want to make a difference in the world, we listen to some of his clips from mentoring for dummies and shut the hell up. Also public info on private companies. Maria semple, the prospect finder and our monthly prospect research contributor, was back this time with free and low cost ways to get information on your prospects privately held companies, she explained that the companies might be small, so relationships are as important as data. Of course, maria is our doi n of dirt cheap and free resource is this week thirty four things to know about people andrea nierenberg, president of nuremberg consulting group, returns because she had so much simple and valuable relationship building advice spilling out of her on october fifth. I invited her back, and this week she’s got thirty four things to know and how to learn them, how to preserve them and what to do with them. Also get engaged, too. Amy sample ward, our social media scientists will be here, she continues. Our siri’s on real engagement and building trust through the social networks last month was setting the tone this month. It’s your call to action amy’s, membership director for non-profit technology network and ten, and she blog’s for the stanford social innovation review. Right now we used to take a break, but now we don’t take a break anymore because we heard you about there being too many breaks, so we shortened the brakes and reduce the number of brakes so don’tjust think we only shorten the brakes. We did two things, we shorten the brakes and reduce the number of brakes, and right now i’m squandering the time that used to be in. A break. So i’m not going to squander it any longer. I’m going to introduce andrea nierenberg. She is the president of nierenberg consulting group, which you’ll find at nierenberg group dot com that’s an e r e n b e r g and the wall street journal has called andrea a networking success story. What do they know? Her books include non stop networking, million dollar networking savvy networking. Lots of networking. She’s working on one sheet. She’s networking on no she’s working on a book for veterans networking. We’ll talk a little about that. I hope she has a background in corporate marketing with companies like avon fashions, saks fifth of and macmillan publications. And i’m very pleased that her relationship building expertise brings her back to the studio. Every welcome. Thank you for having me, tony it’s. My pleasure having you back having you back. Thank you so much. Um, let’s. See, you have ah, thirty four things to know about people on dh. But you have a critical five. So this is all about relationship building. Exactly. Why? Why do you want before we get to the critical five and thirty four remaining after that, which? Would be the other twenty nine what? Why did you compile this list? What i did was people want always build relationships with each other, and the more you know about somebody and sincerely and authentically interested in them, you build a relationship, so this list could even grow further than thirty for not that we’re going to go through each of the topics, but it’s, it’s things that you learn about people as you get to know them as you asked questions as you do, you research so as you’re having a conversation with them, it just builds and the conversation develops genuine interest, genuine esther, but so in a month, this show may be out of date. This could be a list of forty, forty six things by next by next month could bay, so the show is already it could even be out of date by time podcast listeners listen well, today’s november sixteenth and there are thirty four things on angie’s list, which i believe you’re going to post on our facebook page. Exactly, and arlington group also give us a link on both of those okay, you have critical five things which people now people? May think these air just, you know, what’s the phrase i’m looking for, they’re just so ordinary and they’re right on basic. But so why? Why do we list them? Why? Because very often, when you need them, you can’t find them. Like somebody says, i forgot the person’s assistant’s name. I forgot their phone number off about their company where they work now. So i always just say, like anything, just detail it, put it down somewhere. We’re going to find it right in front of you. Okay, so what are the critical five? Simple. Your name, right? That’s the word i was looking for. Simple, simple for the words. Simple, simple. Their name and correct spelling of their name. That’s. A big thing of it is for me now it’s for everybody, buddy there’s a before the end. Absolutely. But notice on your little nucci xero tony m so you know about this, but no, i didn’t. I would have to go back. But i know that’s. Why i make sure that’s why? But even for a name like rick, people think it’s r i c k not necessarily our i c or john it’s a big one. J o h n i know many joo ends, so i’m just saying, make sure you have that the company and the firm name, you know, and the small things are important right now. Wouldn’t you rather address an email or especially a hand written note, but even an email, wouldn’t you rather include the h in the john’s name that has an h leave it out? It’s a little embarrassing, it is usually the person doesn’t read below that if you spelled their name incorrectly you think so? I know so from direct marketing days, the old days of direct marketing, okay, which is now the internet it’s really on steroids, which is direct marketing exactly, but it’s all of that, but of course so having that your fingertips and have this in a template where you can actually go back and refer to it, look it up at all times their phones, they’re comb, phone their company phone number if they give you their home phone number and their cell number great things, i mean, getting basic things, but things that if we don’t have we go crazy saying, why don’t i have that? I need to get in touch with tony em. Right, for example, exactly annual. And you want it all in one place? Yes. And they were going kruckel and their assistants name zsystems name is good, right? And you know just that your blank lines and the mailing address if they give it to you if they have a mailing address. Because i’m a huge believer still of the handwritten personal note, the forty five cent investment plan. When you were here on october fifth, we talked about the value of handwritten notes and how rare they are exactly like people. You can go back and listen. October fifth, your address since the self. Okay. Already simple. The basics. Right? That’s. Why we call it the critical five. Okay, there are critical. I got to send them live listener love before we continue commerce texas cool asheville, north carolina welcome live listener love to texas in north carolina to get started. Um, before we go deeper into the relationship with the other twenty nine, for now for now, altum how do we get teo? How do we compile this information? I don’t want to just be standing with the checklist, and i know now. The questionnaire in front of people, what i’ve done is i’ve taken my template, and i’ve told people, whatever your system is, how you, you know, taking all your intelligence information is having somewhere like in the name and address, you know, the area like your database, whatever you use, and then i just take this template and i pasted in, and then i just every time i learned something new about that person, i just put it right in there so it’s right there at my fingertips now there’s so many different software programs out there there’s, salesforce, there’s everything that actually does a lot of combining and everything like that, you could do it on microsoft outlook to i just like to have it in one place also in front of me, okay? And do you have a preferred a database that you that you particularly like, you know, recommend i use good old microsoft outlook because, again, it lets me add different fields. But then in the note’s part, i just paste this in and keep changing it. I’ve told this to many people where i’ve worked before, i say modified the list too, and then sometimes people will send me a new topic to know about people, so i’ll add it would be thirty five, okay, it’ll be thirty five much too soon. This show’s going to the show is already out of date. I feel like i feel like by the time we finished the interviews, we’re going toe and you’re going to have three e mails and it’s going to thirty seven. But we’re only gonna have thirty for in front of us. All right, but she’ll keep it up to date. Yeah. Okay. So let’s, let’s, dig a little deeper. You have a new interesting one to me that i so shows all about me. Of course. So that’s, where we start thie anniversary of doing business together. That’s a cool one. What do you like to do? What do you like to know? What? Why do you know? Like to know that because it’s a great way, then, to send a note or a gift or something just to say again thank you so much for our relationship in our loyalty together. It’s it’s. Wonderful! Because again, people always get clients. But retaining clients is key and that’s just another way to say, you know, i remember we’ve been working together for x amount of years thank you so much, it’s, consistent with something that i recommend in fund-raising which is the anniversary of someone’s gift or implant e-giving where the gift doesn’t come, usually until the person’s death, the anniversary of them having informed you of their gift and i’ve had donorsearch donor who i remember that date for, and i send them a note, or we’re having lunch that day or around that day, and they have no idea that it’s the anniversary of the day, that they informed us of the gift in their will or life insurance. It’s so true and again, people die when i worked with non-profits i’ve actually said the same thing, for as you just said might mention another thing, i just want to say very quickly. There was one organization i worked with, and they sent a note on the anniversary that the pet it was a medical facility that the pet had passed away remembering, and it was so touching to the the owner that he made quite a nice gift for the organization. We’re going to take a break and when? We return andrea nirenberg. And i’m going to keep talking about her. Thirty four things to know about people. And i hope you stay with us talking alternative radio twenty four hours a day. Are you stuck in your business or career trying to take your business to the next level, and it keeps hitting a wall? This is sam liebowitz, the conscious consultant. I will help you get to the root cause of your abundance issues and help move you forward in your life. Call me now and let’s. Create the future you dream of. Two, one, two, seven, two, one, eight, one, eight, three, that’s to one to seven to one, eight one eight three. The conscious consultant helping conscious people. Be better business people. 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That’s the answer buy-in hey, all you crazy listeners looking to boost your business, why not advertise on talking alternative with very reasonable rates? Interested simply email at info at talking alternative dot com welcome back as we talk about thirty four things to know about people with andrea nierenberg, president of nierenberg consulting group, you have some other ones that are that i thought were interesting. Favorite food, restaurants, vacations. You just find this stuff out over time, i guess. Yes, it’s not like you don’t drill somebody and just ask these questions, but over time, people might say, like, people will say to me, oh, when did you become a vegan? Because i’m a vegan, so i will ask something about with the way they eat. So for knowing their food, somebody would not send me steaks for holiday dinner, right? Provoc sabat exactly that would not be right thing. So it’s, just knowing those things and people have certain likes and dislikes that they tell you as you get to know them, but most of the time that goes in one ear and out the other, i write it down. Okay? Why are you a vegan? Is that for health reason? Now i just wait for him. No, no, no. My own health. Recent exactly. Because one of the things on your list, his motivations. Why you’re motivated to be a vegan. You know what? I a long time i’ve been vegetarian, and then i just started to eliminate anything with a face. Okay, what did you mean? We should just take a chance? Let’s, make sure people understand what we’re talking about it? What? What is the vegan diet? Vegan diet is funnies it’s eighty. Eighty percent of what grows instead of what walks. Okay, so that’s, really what it is, what grows, you know, from the earth. So proved vegetables, things like that instead of a kn animal. So fish, chicken, any kind of meat protein not included, including dairy products, right? Well, you know, so i’m ninety percent vegan. So sometimes i have a little dairy. Okay, so a strict vegan would strict big and, you know, exactly, no or no animal products, right? Some ninety percent. Okay. All right, so i was going to take you out for clams on the half shell and e i guess we’re not doing that. Okay. Uh, other interesting stuff the personal objectives, right? Personal objectives. Why? What are we going to do with that information? Who knows? But again, when somebody tells you something that they’re passionate about or an objective they have, whether it’s in business or in their personal life or whatever, it’s, just something to get them talking more. Tell me more about that. Yeah, that’s a good one, right? Because we want to be asking. As we said on the october fifth show, lots of open ended questions. Talk to people, right? Exactly. Some of their ah, some of their business objectives. Exactly. Right? Because that way, find out. Are they happy where they are they looking to move expand a lot of times, you know, you just find out more things about what keeps him up at night, specifically about business. If they have their own business or if they’re working in a firm, whatever might there be some people that you don’t want to know? Thirty four things about me there’s. Something just one or two enough. And then they get a little annoying. Yes. And i want to make sure that we think okay, i have friends for a long time that i don’t know all thirty four topics again, these air just a list because, like, i don’t know you that even that that well, but i know you somewhat already. I know a few things about you, all right? So tease, but we’re gonna pass. I’m not even going. Okay, okay. See? Alright. Continue going. Go ahead. Fine. Go ahead. What do you know? Well, for example, for example, when it would come to the part about your an author, i know back that you’re an author and that you wrote about compliance, which is in itself something very interesting, because a lot of times people don’t even understand that word. Then i also put together that you probably knowing you were an analytical type of personality. Well, okay, but, you know, you have different personalities listed. That would just be your dominant one. Okay? Because you have dominant, expressive, amiable or analytical right. I was kind of hoping to be a cross between expressive and amy of an amicable, but you don’t know don’t know don’t know don’t know don’t know. Don’t feel bad about that. Just saying precision oriented is no, no, no, i get involved in the details, knows another’s down, and now you’re you know, the best thing is that we actually are part of all of these styles. What your dominant one. And i figured that out. Also from your military background and being a combat, i think, therefore in the air force, right, comeback crew commander never saw combat. Yeah, what now we come, but i saw it was from the air from if a crew, right, that you were not a ground based, okay, yes, self-funding so those types of things where things conversation builders, sure. Okay, and your blogger, i’m a blogger, right? Okay, so just saying those ditigal makes sense, and and also, but you do some research, and then when you have conversations with somebody, i do okay, including on the show. Those are good ones, but you don’t have spell my last name. No, no, no, no, stop your sheet, says says says, tony are ok for my that was my own knows antonio markham. Eddie, i know i remember when i met you, and that was the other thing. How do you spell your name? And i had to write it a future remember you asking now you say it. All right, so how do you pronounce your name? And how do you spell your name again? So but for my own you right? For my cheat sheet, i only put tony and from them, but i know it’s important to you now, so now always write it out as tony martignetti i wouldn’t say i mean, secure about it, but, you know, there are martignetti who have taken the g out on, and i’m a proud g holder, a g maintainer, you know, i would even say like that g spot in my yes, but we don’t have time. I hate for it to be obliterated. Oh, yeah, it will. It will never be much. Okay. All right. I think we’ve beaten that to death is the reason i’m feeling a little forward about this? Because because your list is so comprehensive now i’m feeling like i’m not a good friend all my dear friends, who i don’t know, i can’t say that i know their immediate business objectives, you don’t have, like a shallow friends, you know, if i don’t become a little forward, i’m going to be defensive no, no, no, because what happens is this is just information, because no matter how well you know somebody, you always learn something new about them and some people you never find out a lot of these things and who cares, right? It’s just it’s a conversation builder, i could still be a good friend. You’ve certainly can’t. I don’t know the the anniversary that we met, but one that that is a great one for everyone to know for anybody is their preferred method of communication. Because, you know, we have so many different ways to reach back to somebody and if you need to get ahold of somebody, i always say what’s, your preferred method is that email is that phone? Is it text? You know, it’s, it’s, social media, you know, there’s all different ways now. Amy sample ward is in the wings in the green room right now. She’s going to be the next guest and i’m sure she would have something to say about how two people prefer. Do they want a facebook message? They want email? Come on. What do they want? Neither of those that maybe they want a phone call, you know, and that’s the whole thing. I mean, exactly, the world of social media is fascinating. And one of the points that you made when you were last here was that we want to leave people we want. We want to take something. We want to give something and we want one of them water and something. I learned something but have a reason to follow up with a reason. Follow-up how should we follow-up right? Access your opportunity, what’s your preferred method of communication for me to get back in touch with you. Okay. Okay. So we we talked about how to save her to save these things. I mean, doesn’t have to be computer based. Of course, you can have it on idealware five cards. If you want. You can have your own frenchie. You can have anything. You want elektronik? Lee just makes it easier. Sure, of course is the stage. It makes a lot of sense to not have to go to your donors, you know, index card, right? But for a small charity getting started, you know, maybe they don’t have the wherewithal for next excel spreadsheet. It’s sort of hard to imagine, but you just don’t know what the what the technology aptitude is for people who have a deep motivation about write something that they want to start a charity around. And also when you are speaking to a donor and you find out what their passion issue no again, that’s great nothing to write down also because it helps also when you’re talking to them about their gift. I always remember somebody told me once that they went to a charity, they were sponsoring a charity, and they wanted to go to this one bury a successful man to talk to him about this gift. All they wanted a roof for their building when they walk into his office all around the room were pictures of him swimming, swimming medals, and they never once mentioned anything about the pool that they could. Abuse, which he would have, like immediately, probably written a check for but they just talked about the roof so it’s, like look at people and see what their passions are. I used to use that a lot when i was interviewing for jobs back in the dark days when i was an employee of other people, but i still use it. And when i’m meeting donors or clients, you look, you look around the office, i mean, you’re going to see a diploma? Oh, you went teo texas tech, you know? Whatever you see a sailboat, you see andrew’s point your list what what’s in their college where they went exactly, but even you know, if you don’t know, did you look around? If someone’s wearing a lapel pin, you can’t see what the pin is? Maybe it’s, not american flags. Some men do walk around without american flags under the pel it’s. Hard to believe, but some do if you can’t read what the lapel pin is asked, is that rotary? Is that lion’s club? Is it? Did you get an award from the red? Whatever you’re retiring, you wrote, arise excellent, okay, which after you rotary of new york city right here we meet at the harvard club. She knows she has to drop that. Okay, but you’re renting a room at the heart. It’s not like i don’t know. Sac. Like special content. Some manhattan group renting a room? Yes. Are they rent a room at the harvard club? Yes, new york, greater new york rotary. But, you know, it’s been great because wherever i’ve traveled in the world, a lot of times i will always take my rotary carded. Like i’ve gone to many meetings, i know they’re international. You also have. Well, is there anything else you want to say about the thirty four tips before we moved to five things now and then i said, unless one of your listeners maybe has a great tip or another thing we can add. Okay, well, the link is goingto linked to this list is going to be on the facebook page of linked in group and you can also can you can add to andrew’s lift that’s going to be tough it’s pretty comprehensive list. But people are people are creative, very create alright will challenge the audience. Give andrea a couple of things that she doesn’t have on her list, make this list deeper than thirty four, and then when the show was making an offer, if somebody sent so you know, i’ll send him a book, if somebody doesn’t want somebody adds to the list and we added, which i probably will, but even for the effort, okay, cool that’s for listeners. All right, so you have books to choose from. You have non stop networking, million dollar networking seven networking networking for college students and recent graduates. And as of last friday, networking for veterans. Okay, we’re gonna have a chance to talk about a little networking for veterans. What do we do it right now? Since you mentioned it? What what’s special about networking for veterans? Well, because of what’s going on bringing our troops back-up getting them into the work force it into the private sector. We’ve put together a guide, and it was written by me and also with somebody who spent two different times in afghanistan. A marine who’s now working at cnbc and also started a company called four blocks. So it’s a transition guide on everything to do because you’re coming back and getting into the work world. But why is networking for veterans different than the tips that you have in your other books? So not really that different, except that people like to have it nichd according to them. So what it issa’s we really went in and talked about their needs there specifics had to turn their resumes, for example, into military terms into more conversational terms in that corporation, and people sometimes say, well, i don’t network when i’m in, you know, the military, but then they dio they have their friends, they have their groups that the companies and their different areas platoons, you know, the whole area, so they have connections and partnerships and it’s just the idea they’re extremely, extremely well suited for the workforce of civilian life. Their leaders, they managed a multi task. They deal with stress more than many people for ight they are totally precision oriented. They melt like i said, multi task. Their time management is amazing because i started a program one night speaking to a group in the program. Started six thirty they were in their seats ready to go, it’s six. Fifteen. I said you may see something different in the private sector so it’s, just a matter of transition skills i was listening to an interview was earlier this week, i think, and there’s a fear among employers about hiring vets because this is so ludicrous. Sametz but there’s my opinion of it, but it was because they were afraid of hiring the wacky, you know, shoot him up vet, which which i don’t even know if that person exists except in stereotypes, but but there’s a perception among employers that vets could, you know, go off the deep end one day or something. Excuse me way see it every day and people who haven’t been in the military, right? Exactly, your military employees going, toby worlds more stable, right than your average non military employees, and they’re so educated, i mean, they really are, and they work so hard, i mean, and they don’t leave at five o’clock they wait, leave when the job is done. Let’s move to your five things that you should be doing every day, okay, you’re full of lists, so we’re doing thirty nine things that were thirty for things, but it includes a critical five steps out of the thirty four is the five but now a different list. We have the five things to do every day, so we’re actually we’re doing thirty nine things today. Five things to do every day. What what’s that also gets a tip about you being an analytical that’s. True. Very good. So i want you to know i could validate that you not only about your vindicated? Yes, exactly. Okay, five things to do just again. And you don’t have to be doing them like all the time. But you’re there on your radar. You on your mind. So one thing is, think about meeting people are new people. What i mean by that is just surround the account if you’re working with a group or maybe a family or something like that get to know different people within the family or the different clients, whoever that isthe just knowing people surrounding the account, so to speak, on that same list, nurture the relationship so you could go back to something that you learn. He’s thirty for example where the nurture nurture and again in their preferred method of communication, maybe read something that they would be interested in her. An article you could send. To them, maybe you learned something. They were interested. They just came back like i just came back from croatia a few months ago. And i saw something today on pinterest and i was like, wow, that’s great. I know somebody else who just had gone there. I’m going to send that to them. So it’s, like connection. So nurture the second is make sure to listen. I thought this was the third. Well, the first has two parts. I’m sorry lorts sorry. Okay, part one and part two reports metoo and then nurture. Okay. All right. Yeah, i probably should separate them the right second. We have a couple minutes late. Just listen and learn. So actually, really, listen with your ears in your eyes. But within with those two years third is create advocacy, so find ways every day or every week to make connections with your connections to say, you know, tony martignetti you should meet so and so, and then tell a little about each other making email introduction forthe follow-up because most people think about all these things, but they don’t follow-up so just follow up on what i think today is their anniversary, right? So take a step, take a step, right, send a card, make a phone call, do something in fifth, find creative ways to stay on their radar screen so you can go back to thirty four stay on the radar screen. You okay? All about relationship. Really? This is what this is why i invited you back because i make fun of your your lists, but i think they’re great. Thank you. You know, it’s all in good fun, you know that, you know, no, because ways of building relationships, i mean, this is what we’re all about were all about people to people, whether it’s fund-raising or your next job or your next marriage, yes. And and, you know, now you’re going to hear about more about social media what’s perfect about that because every day, like when i’m on facebook or things, i’ve see something new that i could go back to somebody and then send a note or an article or something. So i noticed something about them and this may this may be a me sample ward’s last last appearance, i have five issues with her. We’re going to talk about around jargon jail andrew nirenberg. Is president of near bourg consulting group, which you will find at nierenberg group dot com. Andrew, thank you very much for being a good thank you for having me, it’s. A pleasure. 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Big non-profit ideas for the other ninety five percent. Welcome back. Time for tony’s take to my block this week is uplifting. Outpouring. After sandy, i saw some really proactive corporations take steps to help their customers after the hurricane. And i note some of them that came to me directly. The just email. And i’m not even customers of some of these, like ex customer, but they were letting us know that they were doing very proactive things, and i was impressed, and i wanted to recognize them. Chase bank was the first one i heard from. They proactively waved a bunch of fee’s, late fees, overdraft fees, insufficient funds, weise bond. Then the day after the hurricane, they extended the waivers the fee waivers and extra day. And they added a bunch more states. And they said this. I really was impressed with this quote, we have empowered our employees to be very accommodating to your hurricane related circumstances in waving fees, including the early withdrawal fees on most cds and quote. So they were making it easy for you to get your money. And if you didn’t have money view, um, you know, what’s that called when you overdraw you bounced. The check is i was looking for simple before bounced the check they were going to save those, you know, those types of fees. I was impressed by that. Thank you. America. They did the same thing bunch of fee waivers. And then they announced lenient credit arrangements to help get you access to money. Um, new york sports club opened its doors to everybody. So if you wanted to take a hot shower, if you wanted to do a work out, the clubs were open to the entire new york city population. And i thought that was exemplary and all very proactive. So i admired those things and you’ll find the little dipper explanation on my blogged, uplifting outpouring over sandy on my block. Is that tony martignetti dot com? Not tony m dot com like like andrea nierenberg would have you believe, but tony martignetti dot com and that is tonight. She’s gone now. So that’s tony’s take two for friday, november sixteenth, the forty eighth show of the year. Any sample ward is with me now? She’s membership. Hey, it’s. Not your turn yet? Hey, i’m gonna have to find another jail to accuse you. I’m having trouble with you, she’s the membership director at non-profit technology network and ten and contributed contributor to the stanford social innovation review she’s, co author of social by social handbook on using social technologies for social impact her block is that amy sample, ward, dot, or ge and she’s? On twitter at amy r s ward. Welcome back, thank you for having me. I mean, i know it was pretty rough last time, so we had some trouble around jorgen jail. You’ve got a little devil recalcitrant, we’re still talking about getting engaged, get get engaged part, too, so just remind listeners briefly what it was last week about last month that’s setting the tone, sure so it very conveniently and i’m sure it will again today build on a little bit of what andrea had said earlier in the segment, but but really, you know, being a valuable community member, so not just trying to push content out but give people what they’re looking for a point them to resource is, even if they’re not on your own web site, you know, b be a good participant, create valuable content, but also establish yourself as a trustworthy community member, you know, again, that’s not just pointing people to your own website, but here’s actually, the report you wanted, even though we didn’t do it, you know, here, here it is and just begin transparent being open with your communications eso you’re building up the trust with the community so that later today, when we talk about then asking them to do something for you, they’re more willing to because they know that you’re really there with them for whatever that causes, okay? And yes, oh, today’s the call to action yep, you you have a little term still activism what’s on there’s, no charge in jail because you created it so it’s not that i didn’t creates activity now, i’ve never seen it, but really, i’m just a troubled, okay what’s selective is activism is actually term i dislike, but it is used. I’m not going to say often now that you just said you’ve never heard it, so it could be often on scott koegler caldnear kruckel so i’m just very don’t use me as a standard for anything. So so it is something that has been used, you know, bye those critical of the social content sector. So whether it’s in a new york times piece or on essay by someone you know, trying to maybe, in a way, be little or question the role of social online engagement in the fight for a better world to mean that it’s a slacker action like clicked of ism is another phrase. So, you know, just because you could really easily do that thing, does it even matter? Is it? Is it really an important thing to dio like liking your facebook ranger or retweeting exactly exactly on those are the things that are most often point into as as the definition of selective ism liking something on facebook that an organization posted but really it’s not about calling it a slacker action or or saying, oh, that’s, the most important thing that is relevant to the point is that organisations are using these tools to build engagement, to build trust, and sometimes all that you have to say today is, hey here’s, a news story that we thought was interesting related to our cause, why don’t you read it? You know, here we’re just sharing what we’re doing and people liking that news article or sharing it with their friends, it isn’t something. To discredit that’s a lot of people saying we read the article and thank you for posting it and sharing it with us, and we’re sharing it with our network, so that is a good sign that you’re community is listening a and that they’re willing to show you yet we’re here to do whatever you want to do, and you should consider those, you know, lower, ahh lower asks azaz things that are just maintaining engagement and it’s keeping people connected so that maybe today you’re just sharing news. But tomorrow you say, oh my gosh, the hurricane just hit here are how the resource is for for getting help and please go offline with these resources and help people, so they’re ready because they already we’re watching your page and were regularly engaging. They trust the content you share, and now they’re ready to take action on, isn’t there? Ah counterpart in our our face-to-face relationships in our personal relationships, i’m sometimes i might just send an email to a friend, but another time i might invite him over for a drink or dinner. Exactly. We haven’t gotten together for a while, so right? Clicking like or you? Know, asking for every tweet has an analogy as an analogy, and in our day today, right, if you’ve got an email from someone you hadn’t talked to in a year and they were like, oh, my gosh, so this year i want a fundraiser for christmas or, like, give to my birthday cause and, oh, i’ll totally take you out to dinner, too, but, you know, like that you’re just like, where were you the last year when i’ve had a life, you know, so it’s the same thing you want to just maintain engagement and kind of keep tabs, you know, on what the organization is doing or in the other way around, you know, give opportunities for your community to know what you’re working on, so that when you do say, oh, now we’re ready to launch a campaign or a new program or whatever the community knows why you would even be launching it or why you’d be telling them about it. Yeah, okay, how do you know what people are interested in across the different platforms? They’re suited for different things, but how do you know what people want to get from you across twitter? Versus lincoln sure. Well, first is asking them kind of to andrew’s point is being able to say, oh, you just signed up for the email newsletter? What kind of topics are you interested? Are you in environmental organisations? Don’t just say i assume you all want to know about the environment say, are you actually more interested in climate change versus animals? You know, someone that really cares about alligators and doesn’t care at all about climate change is going to hate you if you start emailing them about climate change like i love alligators, maybe that person exists. I don’t know, i am not extremely fond of alligators because, you know, teeth, large mouth, strength, scary way could explore that another call, but so, you know, let people opt in just to a specific type of content on and similarly, if you are, you know, getting people following you on twitter reach out i mean, you can see who’s following you reach out everyone, so i’ll just say, hey, what are you most interested in? You know, how can we? How can we help you on dh? Just asked because, hey, if they don’t respond, you’re in the same place you are now, but if half of them write back and say, we’re all understand alligators great, apparently your twitter followers are really interested in animals, you know, on then the second part of it is listening so you can ask obviously, that step one, but then just pay attention. Now all these people are following you on twitter sort through see if there’s some key words or some hashtags people are often using and say, wow, it really seems like even though we’re on twitter sharing this content, all these people that have found us and followed us are really more interested in this other topic. You know, maybe we shift some of what we’re posting their same with on facebook or whatever channel you’re using, you know, listen for not who is the person that everyone’s listening to that’s important, but but even those other people that aren’t getting retweeted if they’re constantly all having conversations about a slightly different topic than what you’ve been posting to that channel, maybe that’s, why you’re not getting the engagement that you want or why you could have more if you taylor to that channel most people, you know statistically, or what the research shows is that even though there are people like myself are like you that do have accounts on many platforms just because we’re social beasts that are engaging with the community all over the place, not we’re not out. No, we’re not eating the people were just engaging with, um, that we that people still choose a primary channel that, you know, if they were only going to log in one place today, that that’s the place, so people that aren’t like us, they probably maybe only have one or two channels and the primary versus non primaries like that. Nonprime everyone is once a month, they maybe look at so the way that changes who’s on your facebook page versus who’s in your your linked in group first as following you on twitter, the kinds of people that choose that primary space are going to be different across different platforms, and so the things they’re interested in, the way they talk about them is going to also be different. So listening is going to help you say, great. Maybe we don’t ever post our block post on facebook because the people there, they just want us to write out what the fact was or what the research finding was and let them talk about it in the same space, but over on twitter, maybe they want us to just give them the link so they can share the link around. You know? So so it’s about the topic and the way you give the information so that that group can have it the way they want, instead of having to go find the block post because they really just wanted the findings. You know, i got sense. Um, some fresh live listener love, benita springs, florida and staten island. Staten island. Of course, we’re thinking about you from sandy. There are a lot of people still in a very bad state in staten island. Three weeks is not enough time to recover from what sandy did. So stat now and our love and our hearts go out to you. Foreign listeners abroad. Taipei, uh, fukuoka, japan. Tokyo, japan. Asahi, japan. Chung ju in china welcome, it’s. Unbelievable. Welcome foreign listeners. Have you been noticing that or i have been anyway? I’m asking if you have. Of course. This is all about me. So what? I experienced the world experiences. It’s. True, that zoho except first activism know there’s. All right, i’m not, yeah, i wasn’t aware of that one. Alligator amy is with us, and now i’ve been noticing that a lot of the the social networks linked in and facebook specifically are sending the e mail to tell me now about things that are happening over on the on my site on facebook and lincoln, people have viewed my profile on linked in to try to get on argast room they want meteo more traffic on lengthen facebook, you have a list of twenty six things that you haven’t responded to, but they’re usually just like new events or something. Is that mean that the networks are recognizing? Email is an important channel? Well, i think it’s because i mean, these platforms have always recognized email as the channel to get you back in that’s why they all rely on notifications that you know, here’s the e mail that someone just posted on your wall here is the email that someone wants to be your lincoln connection, you know, they’ve always relied on email tio loop you back in for notifications, but they’re realizing now hey, maybe people will come back and check out linked in even if they don’t have an open invitation they have tio you know, ignore or accept, but we could just say, hey, did you see that these three people change their job titles were going to tell you what their new job titles are. We’re going to hook you back in, yeah, but then, you know, while you’re here, then we’re going to try and prompt you to update your job title and then that lets us email them and say, hey, you just changed your job, you know, so it’s just looking for opportunities that aren’t just in those notifications, that just aren’t the actions toe loop you back into the platform saying with facebook and the pages, okay, we gotta take a break, any stays with us, and i hope you do, too. Yeah, you’re listening to the talking alternative network. Schnoll are you stuck in your business or career trying to take your business to the next level, and it keeps hitting a wall? This is sam liebowitz, the conscious consultant. I will help you get to the root cause of your abundance issues and help move you forward in your life. Call me now and let’s. Create the future you dream of. Two, one, two, seven, two, one, eight, one, eight, three, that’s to one to seven to one, eight one eight three. 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There’s numbers there’s a lot of quantitative oh yeah, lots of metrics. I mean, you could you could die happy and those in that data, you know what? Also always in art, we’re talking about some of the art yeah, you know, exactly turn people off, you want to recognize their appropriate channels, etcetera, right? Right, exactly let’s suppose now that you’re not in, you know, you don’t have any big campaign going on, not some big push for money or or activity or volunteers or lobbying or whatever. How are we keeping people engaged between these campaigns? Well, i mean, it’s important to plan for the non campaign engagement, especially the the immediate week or month after a campaign, so that you don’t just have tons and tons of action and then silence eso when you’re when you’re creating your campaign plan and considering the online engagement components, you have to then plan for the phase out after radcampaign but then after that it’s, you know, like we just said, you want to make sure you’re sharing things and giving people ways to continue to engage with you so that they, you know, so you’re content going to use a show up in their facebook news feed and and all the rest but it’s important that whatever you’re sharing is still relevant and valuable and trustworthy, etcetera, because if it isn’t, then people are just going to see right through it if you’re just, you know, saying something just to have a post that day, no, people are smart enough to know that you don’t have anything to say and that and that is interpreted by the community is as you’re not really carrying so it’s better to just not have posted that post than to just write something that says, what are you doing today? Because we don’t have anything to say, you know, now campaign could be something small, even just like a new blood post, right? But if all your stream is ever about his new block post every two weeks, people that’s, that’s, the one way, the deadly one way exactly, and there are lots of ways, especially when you think of it not as a campaign or trying to put pressure on yourself as huge, you know, engagement, gathering things, but if you just think about it from the content planning perspective, there are lots of ways that you can maintain engagement outside of campaign, so you could say, you know, every thursday we share a news story from the week that is about our issue and you know, that we’re seeing people talking about and so then, you know, great every thursday, we already have our content plant, and the community now expects to get news from us every week, so, you know, you could just pull that link from the new york times where it is here’s the article we’ve seen some of these community members give their feedback, what do you what do you think? And just start the conversation and you don’t have to have searched for things if you’re paying attention as an organization, you probably are following the news around your issue. So it’s not a difficult, it doesn’t take staff capacity to try and maintain that, but it definitely helps maintain engagement in the community geever same with the bog post, do you know that you’re going to have a block post every week or uncertain days than just plan that that’s the piece you’re going to share and then test? Do we just post the link to the block post and say, hey, what do you think, here’s this week’s blood post? Or do you say here’s a quote from the block post? What do you think? You know, what’s your reaction just to the quote and get people talking. So even within the content you’re sharing regularly, you contest and kind of changed the nuance you know, of how your of how you’re posting it and just keeping things regular, a lot of a lot of organizations i’ve worked with, their natural instinct is home. I’ve ash that’s so boring everyone will think every thursday you share a news story, uh, come up with something original, but actually that regularity helps the community because they know, oh, man, i didn’t see a news story, you know, from habitat for humanity in new york today, and and i am used to seeing that i’m going to go look for the news story instead of just trying. To hope people see it, you know, you’re creating a reliable source for them, right? And and i think people and people do come to expect it. Andi, you don’t want to think that your stream is the only thing they’re following. So exact waiting for next thursday, there’s plenty of other things happening between the thursdays, right? Exactly their lives and their social networks. Exactly. Exactly. You know, it’s not like you. Oh, they have nothing to do until next thursday, right? But then it can also help you. It can help inform when you do plan for ah large campaign, because you can look back and say of all of our thursday news posts, actually, you know, over time they’ve gotten less and less traction let’s make sure we don’t frame important news during a campaign, the way we were framing it there because we saw people, you know, kind of lost interest or oh, my gosh, this kind of content we’re sharing just does fabulous every week. Let’s make sure we incorporate that into our campaign plan so that every day we have one of those for example, you know, so don’t just think of it as like, well, this is the boring in between stuff, but that’s, that’s your test, you know, that’s, the science part that’s where you get a test out, see what works and in the campaign just use the stuff that we’re yeah, excellent. Okay, and since we’re talking about campaigns, we just have about thirty seconds left, but one of the things you want to do it right after your campaign is share results, share results on and it’s a really easy way the community likes to know they made an impact, you know? And so obviously a lot of organizations think we’ll share. You know, how many people signed the petition and how much money we raised, whatever, but also share things like here’s, the photo that was shared most and then everyone could say, i shared that photo, you know, like, it seems silly, but they will remember that photo if they were the ones that shared it, and then they think, yeah, i’m going to share it again. I’m going to like it. It is a compelling photo, you know? S so think of those other social components to report back on as well. Alligator amy thing scientist her bloggers that amy sample war dot or ge? And on twitter she’s at amy r s ford. Good to see you. Thanks. Thank you. Yep, pleasure. Next week we don’t have a show. You certainly have my good wishes for thanksgiving, especially people displaced from sandy. I hope you can take time and give thanks for the blessing that you still do have in your life, and you have on everyone has my good wishes for for thanksgiving next week on november thirtieth, russell james with request brain scans this professional from texas tech that see texas tech is on my mind if you were paying attention. I mentioned texas tech earlier today, russell has done research to show how our brains light up when we decide to put a charity in our will so it’s bequest brain scans and we’ll explore his work and also scott koegler returns on thirtieth he’s, our tech contributor and the editor of non-profit technology news. In the meantime, i believe next week there will be a new fund-raising fundamentals podcast that i do for the chronicle of philanthropy. You can never trust these people, you know, they’re editorial practices, they’re very sketchy. 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112: Friends From Events & Get Engaged 1 – Tony Martignetti Nonprofit Radio

Tony’s guests this week:

Andrea Nierenberg, president of Nierenberg Consulting Group

Amy Sample Ward, membership director for NTEN and blogger at Stanford Social Innovation Review

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Hyre hello and welcome to tony martignetti non-profit radio big non-profit ideas for the other ninety five percent, i’m your aptly named host it’s october fifth, two thousand twelve oh, i hope you’re with me last week. Yes, i do simply i hope you were here because last week was the law of attraction to attract major gift prospects and potential board members, you have to put your best foot forward to get what you’re seeking. Melanie schnoll begun is managing director at morgan stanley private wealth management remember, she helps her ultra high net worth clients make charitable gifts and get on boards, and she had practical and valuable advice that applies to any charity soliciting a major gift or recruiting a boardmember also private benefits not dirty but bad. We’re not talking friends with benefits. These air the rules against private and your mint excess benefit transactions and private benefit generally these rules keep your charity operating for the public good. Emily chan from the non-profit and exempt organizations law group is our monthly legal contributor and she explained all those rules this week. Friends from from events andrea nierenberg, president of nierenberg consulting group, talks you through her friendly steps for meeting more people at events of any kind and building a real relationship with them. It’s. Remarkably simple advice and get engaged. One amy sample ward, our social media scientist, kicks off. Her new status as contributor. This month is part one of a series on riel engagement and building trust through online social networks. She’s, membership director for non-profit technology network and ten, and she blog’s for stanford social innovation review. Are you on twitter at this moment? If you are, then you should be following us on the hashtag non-profit radio on tony’s. Take two in between the guests, perseverance, that’s, what i blogged this week and that’s what i’ll talk about at roughly thirty two minutes into the hour. Right now, we take a break. When we returned, i’ll be joined by andrea nirenberg, and we will talk about friends from events. Stay with me, co-branding dick, dick tooting, getting ding, ding, ding, ding. You’re listening to the talking alternative network duitz e-giving. Nothing. Good joined the metaphysical center of new jersey and the association for hyre. Awareness for two exciting events this fall live just minutes from new york city in pompton plains, new jersey, dr judith orloff will address her bestseller, emotional freedom, and greg brady will discuss his latest book, deep truth living on the edge. Are you ready for twelve twenty one twelve? Save the dates. Judith orloff, october eighteenth and greg brady in november ninth and tenth. For early bird tickets, visit metaphysical center of newjersey dot or or a nj dot net. Hi, i’m donna, and i’m done were certified mediators, and i am a family and couples licensed therapists and author of please don’t buy me ice cream are show new beginnings is about helping you and your family recover financially and emotionally and start the beginning of your life. We’ll answer your questions on divorce, family, court, co, parenting, personal development, new relationships, blending families and more. Dahna and i will bring you to a place of empowerment and belief that even though marriages may end, families are forever. Join us every monday, starting september tenth at ten am on talking alternative dot com. You’re listening to the talking alternative network. Duitz lorts durney yeah, welcome back. We’re always talking about big non-profit ideas for the other ninety five percent, and today is no exception to that. In the studio with me now is andrea nierenberg she’s, author of several books, and i’ll ask her to name a couple of those titles in a few moments. She’s, president of nierenberg consulting group, which you’ll find at nierenberg group dot com you’ll find her name is spelled and i e r e n b e r g nierenberg group dot com, and i’m very pleased that her work and her expertise brings her to the studio and the show. Andrea welcome. Thank you so much, tony it’s great to be here. It’s a pleasure to have you i’m glad you’re with us. Thank you were talking about friends from events. People get a little intimidated at events what’s what’s up. People do because they think that when they go to any kind of an event that they have to get something and i always say before you go, set a goal in your mind that you’re curious, you’re going to go to meet a couple of new people, learn about them, and i always say when i talk about networking, the opposite of networking is not working that every time you meet someone it’s an opportunity to learn from them, be a resource or give something first, if you go with that sort of premise, it’s fun, all right? And we’ll go into detail on each of those. You know, you have a lot of advice around those, but but this is potentially walking into a room full of strangers or mostly strangers. I mean, if i only know two or three a handful of people out of the room, i might not see those people it’s intimidating. It might be, but you could do your research before you go and that’s something that we all have available right now. You can go online, you can see a little bit about the organization you can see about the event that’s going to be coming up, even a social event on a lot of times, i’ll just, you know, connect with the person who’s giving the party or whatever just to learn a little bit about that. So for something it’s a business related, i say, get in touch with the greeter or the organizer before. The event or after you’ve done some homework so you make an introduction b e mail or call them, i’ll say, i’m going to be coming and you know, i don’t really know anyone there. What advice might you have? People are shocked when people do that, then do something really important. Send a note after you’ve spoken to the person or connected with them online it’s that given you some feedback, a hand written note just to say, i’m really looking forward, all right, and we’re goingto that kind of detail. I pulled listeners before the show, and we did have low survey response this week, so maybe less reliable than usual. But one of the questions i asked was, do you prepare before attending your charities social events, for instance, who you’d like to meet, research those people and think about talking points with people? And eighty percent of the people said yes, and twenty percent said, no, they do not. So for the eighty percent will have advice. We will put a finer point on that, and for the other twenty percent, we’ll get you up to speed. Let’s, say a little more about the researcher and how first, how are we going to find out who’s going to be there? Well, sometimes you can go right online and you can see who the board of directors are if there’s a speaker who the speaker is, you can see people that have been other events that they’ve had, and again, you may not get a guest list for that particular evening or that day, but at least you’ve got some people. And again, you may not meet those particular people, but at least if you do, you have the opportunity to go to google or to go to their site or the link dan or anything to find out a little bit about them. So if you do have the opportunity to meet them there, you have some talking points are but there are other people that you could meet that you don’t have. I did the research on. Okay, andi, if this is your own charities event, you might be a fundraiser or an executive director for a boardmember going to an event, then you definitely can get a copy of the certainly i just i’m so excited about this new friends of events, i threw the microphone across the across the table, but i’m back don’t worry on dunaj un injured as well. So then, if you’re one of those people and it’s easy that you definitely should get a list of all the attendees and go through it. It’s very easy and, you know, especially if you say, you know, i really love to meet these people and connect with them on and differentiate yourself. I always say also go to google alerts because any time that somebody has been in the media or the press or anything, you can get some information and you’ll get it like in a low. So you want to set up a google alerts for someone. Now, if this is a big event, you would probably wouldn’t set it up for all the all the hundreds of people who are coming for your key people that really happened. They have that all the time for your key people, because it’s it’s something that’s ongoing because you’re just not going to go to the event, meet them and that’s it. You want to build a relationship? That’s the whole idea. And also, you don’t want to stop the people. I mean, this is this is just getting a zai say to some people gathering intelligence and information, you’re just pulling in. So you have knowledge. When you meet somebody, you have a very short window of time to make a first impression. Okay, understand? So clearly our research is part of our goal setting. When this is all subsumed, i guess in having a goal for the afternoon or the evening. Absolutely. I want to send some live listener love out tio new bern, north carolina and a story of new york that’s queen’s write stories. Queens. Of course. I knew that i used to live in forest hills, queens on dh. This may be a popular time in the story of two because it’s beer, it’s octoberfest and a story of new york happens to be known for its beer gardens. So welcome a story. Welcome. New bern, north carolina. Live listener love out to out to you that’s. Nice, of course. Well, did you expect other one that no, in fact, i’m going to be in a story tomorrow. So that’s what? Okay, cool. You thought i was? A crash host? No etiquette. Okay, that you’re great. Well, don’t get carried away. But you thought it would be okay. Okay, we’ll be fine. Um with just a minute left or so before our first break. What else should we be thinking about when we when we know who these people are that we want to talk about what we want to talk to at that event position you’re, you know, your introduction, something that’s kapin pool to them and something that you could get your point across also, but something very short, brief focus on the other person, don’t focus on herself, which a lot of times people do say something to that person that when you walk up to them, is something that you admire about them. You’ve heard them speak. You’ve read something about their work, something like that and then put out your hand and introduce yourself. Take the initiative, tying your research that you did to the opening a couple lines. We’re all right. We’re gonna take this break and when we return, of course andrea nierenberg stays with me, and i hope you do, too. Talking alternative radio twenty four hours a day. Are you stuck in your business or career trying to take your business to the next level, and it keeps hitting a wall? This is sam liebowitz, the conscious consultant. I will help you get to the root cause of your abundance issues and help move you forward in your life. Call me now and let’s. Create the future you dream of. Two, one, two, seven, two, one, eight, one, eight, three, that’s to one to seven to one, eight one eight three. The conscious consultant helping conscious people. Be better business people. Buy-in are you fed up with talking points, rhetoric everywhere you turn left or right? Spin ideology, no reality, in fact, its ideology over intellect, no more it’s, time for action. Join me, larry shot a neo-sage tuesday nights nine to eleven easter for the ivory tower radio in the ivory tower. We’ll discuss what you’re born, you society, politics, business, it’s, provocative talk for the realist and the skeptic who want to go what’s really going on. What does it mean? What can be done about so gain special access to the ivory tower? Listen to me, larry. Sure you’re neo-sage tuesday nights nine to eleven new york time go to ivory tower radio dot com for details. That’s, ivory tower radio, dot com e every time i was a great place to visit for both entertainment and education listening tuesday nights nine to eleven it will make you smarter. Hey, all you crazy listeners looking to boost your business? Why not advertise on talking alternative with very reasonable rates? Interested simply email at info at talking alternative dot com welcome back, andrea nirenberg is here and we’re talking about friends from events. What is thea the next step after you or you want people to be confident? Let’s? Take that and you want to put my hand out on dh introduced myself, right? I say you have to have your intangible tool kit with you and your tangible tool kit. Okay, what your intent? Intangible you’ve done your research, you’ve set a goal for the event. You’ve also thought about your appearance. You thought about the fact that when you walk into the room, you’re going to smile and research tells us that most people do not smile when they walk into a room, and when you smile and you walk in, first of all, you become more confident you feel more confident internally, you’re approachable, and it also is something that most people aren’t always doing there exactly. So watch the next time you walk into an event. Also, think about what you’re going to say to people, have you or introduction, you know you’re twenty second, if you will introduction, sort of a headline that you’ll have also some headlines about me, yet you have somebody says hey, tony, what do you do? Right. Well, say really, even though they want to know what you do, they really want to talk about who more than anybody, right? Thumb. So right. I mean, myself with there being polite. Absolutely. But i’m just saying, but that’s, how you draw a conversation with people. So as we all know, it’s very common sense also something so basic and self simple. Turn off all your equipment. I know i say this, but how many times do you go somewhere and people are still connected? Have great eye contact. Sounds simple, not always done in a firm handshake. Simple things, but all this is in your intangible tool kit. You know, because you have to think about these things. Also, take a quick look in the mirror and make sure you do give yourself a smile because i have a greeting in my office is a mirror is has a wonderful greeting. If you smile into it, it smiles back. If you frown into it, it returns that greeting it’s basic but basic works. Plus, you want to look to make sure you have spinach thing for understanding through exactly i talk. About that in a lot of my books and people laugh, but i say, you know, what’s critical it’s critical, and then in your end, in your tangible tool kit, this is keep have your business cards, not to give them out unless somebody asked for them, but have them so that they’re with you. I always say, have a prop with you to like something that you might where i wear a lot of pins have an interesting pan, something like that. So, you know, you can start conversation also pen and paper because your people took it was very full. Well, it’s not that full because what happens things are no, i’m pinned on bulky with my cards. No, no, no, no, not a lot less is just want one cup, one interesting thing, okay? And the thing is, i always say, don’t matter how sharp your mind is, it’s still weaker than the pale of stinks so i may learn something about you, toni, and then i’m thinking, i want to be able latto follow-up but i don’t have to write something down, so if we’re in a longer conversation, i might say, with your permission, could i write a few notes down because i’d like to be able to follow-up you don’t think that’s, you don’t find that craft if we’re in a conversation for awhile for discussing things not go? No most the time, the reason i have is after we walk away, then i think development officer going more morgan’s, you know, you’re not interviewing the person, not drilling them, but you know how sometimes you just like, well, that’s, right? You talk for a while, then you might say, just let me make a couple of those yeah, right, you know? And i’ll use their business card, teo, to make those, but no, i’m gonna correct on that because one of the things is i’m glad you brought that admonished no, no, not at all, but what happens if the business card if you think about in the far east and i’ve been there eight times and i always think about that when you get someone’s business card, they give it to you almost like it’s, like it’s them. I have heard that exactly, and people study it, they look at it, they come in on it, so you know what i’ve started. To do when i go to advance or when i meet people anywhere, i will get the card. Then i might comment on it. Tell me a little bit more about that and i just did this on one of my client programs that we do these webinars and all thie advisers in the room were like saying this’s, fantastic. Okay, something to dio, but we’re not in the far east, so i mean, here in the us we live in. We don’t. We don’t revere the business card. It’s maura, we should those, but but you know what, it’s? Another talking point. So the thing is, we usually to convince me of this. All right, well, i don’t want to convict e what i always say. I know, i know. I always say take the best and leave the the rest. Okay? But my point is when i will be with you so i know twenty tow woobox tangible and, boy, i got a front once i’m learning all the time. But the funny thing is that when you do look at someone’s card or ask some questions no, that part i love because because there’s often there’s information on the card that i think, oh, i used to live there or but i don’t look at it until i’m in my house. I met you, so i’m not. I’m not disagreeing with you about the staring at the card, actually reading it in the president, nothing glancing at the card really, i am being admonished is no question about that, but that’s okay, yes, we are definitely having fun. So but it’s the it’s, the not writing on the card, you know, because we’re not in the far east, it doesn’t matter. Well, again, i always say take don’t take the bus leaving, the rest were gone and i got the window, okay, but my point is because sometimes if you write on someone’s card, you know, a lot of times then you know it gets lost or whatever i say take it back, put it into your database or wherever you keep your information and that’s really what you need to dio and then put down your notes. So i’m putting my notes elsewhere. Now, if i’m in the midst of the conversation and it’s a lengthy one, as you suggested, then i’m saying, as i’ve done you mind if i take a few notes? So i need to have a little piece of scrap paper with many scrap paper? Nice little, you know, booklet being admonished again. I i’m screwing this up so badly that you’re going to make me a hermit. I never got to see this is never going to another. You could take scrap paper. It’s. Okay, but my point is, i take a little like all these wonderful little, you know, mole skin, but yeah, they’re pretty they make a much more efficient for station pieces. They make a professional appearance. Of course. All right, you’re straightening me out there, not admonishing. Okay, let me send a little live listener love out to maywood, maywood, new jersey. I have relatives in maywood, and that could be them. I don’t know. That’s grove street in maywood, new jersey. Then that would be my aunt uncle, but could be anywhere else made with the big town maywood, new jersey live listener love. And also hey, fay, china that’s. Not that’s, not in wyoming. I don’t mean. Hey, fay, china, wyoming. I mean the city of hay faye in the country of china as well. And were very apropo to send live listener love teo to our asian listeners because we’re talking about the business card and how it’s revered and how sloppy i am at events know that you’re you’re saying it makes very good sense what i did use those in a little bit now feeling defensive, you know, that’s very bad i would those little scraps i would take in the corner on it was actually not a scrap. I mean, i would have, like, a legal pad, a couple pages, and i would have it folded, but i would go off into the corner and make my notes there, but i like i like the idea of doing it face to face with the person and having a little conversational, beautiful piece of stationery that i’m writing on or some herbal note, because it makes the other person sometimes feel well, you know what i’m saying is really important, and you’re taking an interest this guy’s a big shot. Look at this cool look, it’s called a notebook people, and i always ask permission of stock it absolutely right. I’m with you. Yeah, i’m the crash one and you know i don’t know there’s different kinds of people. Yes, we can meet absolute have them identified, categorized where those with those types of people. Okay, well, after i’ve done my own research on the people i’d like to meet if i have, i’ve identified them, so i’ve already done my homework, but i may not get to meet them, so i always want to be prepared. I walk in the door, right? The greeter is right there if i’ve had in any kind of conversation with that person in advance. It’s wonderful to be able to say hi, so great to meet you in person because you have done the previous i’m coming. I might not know too many people. If not, i still seek that person out just so i can introduce myself busy though i am not going to spend a lot of time, but you go over and say hello. I just wanted to introduce myself. Thank you so much. I’m looking forward to the event and then come back at the end also to say thank you. Okay, simple talk to the people that are in front of you and behind you in line when you’re checking. In because just to say hello, what brings you to the event? So at least start conversations, people usually that air standing by the food at the bar? Isn’t it true? Yeah, great places just to walk over to people because it’s all about starting the conversation of working, the impression is very collegial around the food table you’re sharing force and well, serving for their not shaking or you’re just talking, everybody gets their own eating. Forget my events in-kind events you’re running, but i don’t know that’s an idea, but we’re also we’re only sharing the serving fork, so but literally there’s a physical sharing it is sharing the table space around which you’re walking, you started cos bar you’ve got your elbows on the bar? Yeah, so you’re sharing and basically all you’re doing, especially for people who get intimidated a lot of times about events saying, oh, who do i talk? Teo this’s. Perfect, because you could just start a conversation. Hello? What brings you here? Open ended questions would always have your exit strategy, then exit strategy thing. The other thing is people who are by themselves, you know, there was always somebody standing or sitting alone and we’ve all been there, so i always will walk up to somebody and start a conversation with them. Also, if you’re in an event when i’m there, the odds are that guy standing alone is gonna be named tony martignetti looked out, we know it’s a lot of that’s great, so i actually do engage, but now that’s a very friendly thing to do because people who are standing alone, you know, they don’t know what to do with their hands have a drink in one hand, the other hand is in their pocket or ah, there, you know, feigning using their phone, which i know you’re that’s bad, i mean, definitely should be disconnected when you’re walking into an event supposed princessa you don’t really want to be distracted right in the midst of a conversation, even if even if there’s a tone going off and you ignore it, it’s still just, you know, it’s a distraction, right? It is, but but these people standing alone, they’re they’re fainting, using mail checking, you know, you can walk up to them and saying, of course, well, what’s, the worst right? And they’re not going to give you the worst know it wasn’t really that great there alone don’t who are there other categories of people that we threw? The other group is like if there’s everybody’s engaged and there’s, we’ve talked to all the other we’ve talked about then i always say, walk up to a group now, not to people, because two people could be having are having a conversation so you don’t want to interrupt, you know, want to stand there, but if it’s three or more people just walk up and i do this all day, that teo and i will stand there usually they know you’re there after a few settlements, right? And i’ll say something like, you look like the friendliest group here, i hope it’s okay, that i came over here alone and i never tried that, all right? I just weighed on my way in because naturally, the group will start, expand and allow you in people just do that. I mean it so’s but that’s a good one. This looked like the most interesting group. But then if you go to the group next to them, you can’t, you know, because then you can use another life or something. Like that or else by that time, you could bring over, say, tony, i’d like to introduce you to or do you know, the people over there with it’s walk over together? And isn’t that a key sort of seeming like the host you’re trying to take over from those who want to seem like making connections so little boy about exactly and that’s? Why i always take on that premise in my mind that i want to be the host or hostess when i walk in for myself. So i want to greet people and be open and everything, and also because i’m an introvert, i’m a learned that you are martignetti learned extra that’s well, that’s very encouraging for the twenty percent of people who who said they don’t do their research and actually related to that. I asked another question, preshow you’re at a professional conference and you’re the last person through the lunch buffet. There are two seats left, one is at a table of strangers. The other is a solo seat at a small table all by itself. Where will you sit? Eighty percent said they would sit at the table, strangers twenty percent said they would set up the solo table, so for that for that twenty percent that we’re talking to, so you’re meaning that they’d sit by themselves instead of sitting at a table of strangers, and then i set it up solo table, so there’s nobody’s going to sit with them. So so now for your for the person who’s dahna needs to be a learned, extroverted what’s your advice there because that’s that’s you i exactly, i would say, you know, you need to have your own kind a pep talk in your mind that when you walk in and say, you know what, i’m going to jump out of my comfort zone, and i’m going to sit with some other people i don’t know because what’s the purpose of going and sitting by myself, i’m there to learn and to meet and connect with people and say that to yourself. And if you ask the person next to you, you know, has this seat been taken? Obviously is open so you can just perfect opportunity to say hello to the person on your left person on your right and just daughter conversation, but just if you think about learning e-giving sharing and asking open ended, high gain types of questions to the people, then it’s not scary, then you don’t have to focus on yourself, okay? And small talk is has a place in this right? Small talk is big talk you say to the person is a seat open. Okay, now you’ve already opened the conversation, right? So that’s, the first person why is small talk big talk? Because that starts the conversation report and everything like that and just be open and observing and aware. So the person sitting next may, maybe they’re all talking to people. Eventually there’ll be a lull in the conversation. So while i’m watching, i’m observing and then i might just say to somebody, you know, i couldn’t help, but over here, would you mind if i, you know, offered a piece of advice on that or something? And a lot of times you get into that situation, i’m thinking of the sitting at the sitting in a seat table, strangers people start looking at you, whether they’re in a conversation or not, they start to recognize that you’re they’re just like when you’re in the in the bar area, you know? Milling in joining that group, people will start. Teo will start to recognize yes, but it’s also, you know, when you sit down and you’re the last person to sit down it’s like you make a presence right there by doing that, so even if they’re all talking to each other, you know, you sit for a minute or two, but then you just start the conversation they know you’re there being an extra vert can be learned it’s very much learned. I talked about that a lot, okay, you mentioned the exit exit strategy. All right, so now we’ve been in a minute conversation a little too long, andi were sort of getting back to small talk now, like now we’ve now we’ve exhausted goodcompany ation and we’re back talking about the weather and traffic what’s my for that if we’re going to follow-up i always say there’s four things to do in every conversation learn something about the other person. So you tell me your name. Tell me a little bit about you. I want to focus on you, the other person give something. So maybe something you told me. I could give you a piece of advice. You know, tony there’s an article that you might be interested with your permission, would it be okay to send it to you? And then i would always ask you, your preferred method of communication if we were going to stay in touch, so take something away, and then if we were going to stay in touch, find a reason to follow-up say, you know, you said you’re an email person, would it be okay to reach out to you the e mail in the next week or so? Maybe set up a coffee or something? And then it’s been great meeting you enjoy the rest of your time here? Or i might say, my time’s already been well spent. Thank you so much for the conversation enjoyed the rest where i might say, tony, i don’t know if you’ve met so and so and put the two of you together and then walk away, right? Andrea, i’m gonna believe you gave about thirty five tips in this time that we’ve spent together, so people will have to go back and listen to the podcast and take notes because incredible advice. We just have about a minute before we have to depart, tell me the name of a couple of your books, non stop networking had improved your life, working career, million dollar networking a sure way to find, grow and keep your business. And i’m very proud about the book that’s coming out networking for veterans, which was done in conjunction with military and it’s coming out on veterans day. And can we find all information about that at nierenberg group dot com? Right? Andrea, i’m going to take so i’ll take a look at the time because this is really very important to me. Tell me what it is that you love about the advice that you give the work that you’re doing around this subject that we’re talking about, because it’s, you know, i was an old dale carnegie instructor if anyone ever read that years ago in the book how to win friends and influence people, and it was very, very important to me because i was always very shy. When i moved to new york, i said, i’ve gotto really put myself out there and build my business and do everything i was going to, and i always hear my wonderful dad up in heaven. Saying to me, read that book and then take the course, and i became an instructor while i was a publisher during the day and that’s that’s a long time ago, because i started my business nineteen years ago. But mr carnegie’s advice is everyday common sense, and this is what networking really is. If you look at it about giving first being a resource and sharing with people and making friends building trust simple. Andrea nirenberg is president of nuremberg consulting group nierenberg group. Dot com. Andrew, thank you so much for being a guest. Thank you, been a pleasure. Stay with me, tony’s, take two, and then any sample war. It kicks off her new status as contributor. When we talk about get engaged, one and i have a feeling he’s going to a lot of overlap between andrews conversation and amy’s conversation. 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And that is tony’s take two for friday, october fifth forty second show of the year with me now is amy sample ward as a snu status as regular social media contributor. Last time she was here was the one hundredth show in july. She is membership director for in ten the non-profit technology network and she’s a blogger for stanford social innovation review. Any sample word? Welcome back. Thank you. I didn’t know you were going to make me cry today. Oh, yeah, it was very human moving you just like long stride in. I was there with you. You know, you were painting a picture. Well, good radio is an intimate coming. I’m very glad of that. Heimans we’re talking today about getting engaged and engagement, of course, in online networks, this is all sort of setting the right kind of tone for our for our work online, right? Yeah, i’m so surprised how much andrea already stole our thunder for this conversation. I feel vastly under equipped. I’m not here with bucks and i don’t have a toolbox don’t like really great tweet oppcoll phrases i don’t have any of that, so we could just bring her back. No, you know what you’re doing very model, you know what you’re doing so let’s, apply your lessons, which overlap with hers. Teo teo online. What? We’re going to have the right kind of tone yeah are are working in the networks i think a lot of organizations, when they’re thinking about either starting profiles or getting them more active, the question they have is, well, what do we talk about what we do, what we say, you know, because they know that just re posting content from their website isn’t very engaging, but they’re also like, well, at least we have that content so that’s something, you know, they don’t know what to do, but just like what? Andrea? Had listed off at the end, you know, be the resource for the community, build trust start the conversation because maybe they’re just following twitter and they’re not saying anything. You don’t know what to say, you know that all those principles apply online and not that, like that’s all that you’re ever going to do? I mean, we’re going to keep talking about engagement for a few segments, you know, there’s more that you can do to build that up, but when you’re just starting and at first and as your default, you know, one today, make sure you are being a resource to the community post something that isn’t your own content, but, you know, is something that people are looking for or is in the news, et cetera and make introductions you don’t have to just tweet hey, everyone, follow me. Maybe one day you can also tweet hey, i’m at the sky at the conference today. Tony’s great follow him that’s about example but way understand the larger concept. Yes, well, that’s what that’s, what followed friday is all about? I don’t know if you use the hashtag ff follow friday you’re supposed to encourage your followers to follow people that you find interesting. Yeah, and i love it when i actually see organizations do it. That’s, of course that’s on twitter buy-in andi, you know, just with the pound sign and an ff and saying, you know, hear other organizations also fighting the fight with us or or whatever and showing that it’s not about them, not the only ones in this important during this important work. Here’s other great u turns out someone else cares about cancer, who knew? You know that there’s always other other organizations, and it doesn’t have to be the people you have. Ah, you know, standing partnership, mou with and it’s a real thing about jargon jail? Yes. Memo of understanding yes, first time, but not if but you know, it’s it’s, not people that you have to recommend. Yeah, but if i am a charity, why would i be if i was being devil’s advocate? Cause i do agree with what you’re saying. If i’m a charity, why am i going? Encourage my followers to follow other organizations that they might then start volunteering with go to their walk, run, start donating to them what i am going to take that chance. So that is a great segway into actual data that we can talk about. S o markgraf bitters, strength of weak ties, which is back from the seventies. But it is great and still still alive and well today from the seventies. So he identified four components of what he calls tie strength. And one of the four is reciprocity, so saying and setting the tone and showing that you are so confident and at home in this whole ecosystem of other organizations, that you’re willing to recommend other organisations, you’re willing to point out the research that someone else did. That’s actually the research maybe your community was looking for and you just don’t do that research, you know, so creating the reciprocity being the first one to do it so others no. Hey, it’s. Okay, we can actually work together in this eyes, one of those four components to actually bring the community together and strengthen it. Okay. I want to get to the others in a very brief second baguettes and live listener love teo schenectady, new york upstate new york’s connected e is that where i believe that’s? Where union colleges that was one of the colleges that rejected me nineteen eighty among it’s, it’s, a long and distinguished list of colleges that rejected me. Union college was among the my beliefs connected in new york. I’m pretty sure seoul, seoul, south korea welcome and rifle colorado. I love it. I love it. Rifle welcome live listener love out there. What are gary’s other? Wait, wait, mark. Exactly. I’m sure one of them is probably active listening good being a good active and attentive listener. Sorry, sorry. Mark so the other 3 and these still tying to some of what andrew was saying earlier trust time and intensity. So how are you building trust being transparent, showing that you have, you know, confidence in the other people, whether that’s the community saying, you know, giving you feedback and you actually saying yes, i heard you and that’s great feedback time, so not just posting at noon and then never engaging the rest of the day, you know, because it’s not you’re not going. You’re not spending much time with people, and it doesn’t mean that you have to literally have facebook open all day long and your chest watching facebook but it means once you post something, maybe check back in in two hours because if people commented, they don’t want to see it took you two days to notice that the comment, you know so doesn’t have to be ah lot amount of time, it’s just the consistent time, you know, on then last is the intensity, so don’t just reply and say thanks, thanks, you know, on twitter blogger exactly you want to actually read what they tweeted to you and then respond to the message? Okay, so thanks for that comment or, you know if someone posted on your organization’s facebook wall say, oh, that’s a great idea, here’s what i think of it or, you know, have some substance tow how you’re replying because a lot of organizations think, well, we’ll just right. Thanks. Thanks. Thanks. Every time someone retweets us and yeah, they do get the feeling of the you got it. But then they look at your twitter stream and i go. So you just say thanks no matter what you know, like you could automate that and the robots of the internet could do it for you so making it really human bon ce again. Just strengthens that connection, okay? I think another way would be if we talk about facebook clicking like all the time and giving again there. One word, you know, thanks. Whatever, but rather than just clicking like i mean, like, so good, i mean, there’s a value in like, but you don’t you don’t just stop there every time, exactly, exactly. And sometimes alike is all you can do. Sometimes someone post just thanks to you. Well, just hitting like that is great. You know what? An eye for an eye i but if someone took the time to write a thoughtful comment or to try and give you a suggestion, they want more than a thanks or or a like, you know? Okay, now you talked earlier about engagement and and i want to talk about certainly beings a little open this around engaged, posting things that are appropriate for openness and transparency on the sort of on the governance non-technical side. But they also translate to engagement on the social media side what’s your advice around some of those, like the nine, ninety and things. Yeah, i think it’s i definitely think everyone should post their nineties because at the end of the day, they are publicly available, so it isn’t that people couldn’t find it out about you putting it on your website. I mean, the number of people that would download it is still very small, but the fact that you are being transparent and forthcoming sets a much better tone. We’ve even had people at inten email us and say, oh, my gosh, i saw on this page that you’re nine, ninety is visible i think i think that was a mistake to really have your way, and we’ve had to reply and say yes, we put it there. We want you, by the way, you could have got it from the state attorney general likely our star star scott go. Exactly. Okay, so what else? What else besides the nine? Ninety? So i also think that there’s, you know, other than that one time of year when you have the nine ninety, there are lots of times that you could be sharing things openly in a way that isn’t just here. We put it up on the website. But we want you to engage with us around this like we just got a grant. And this is what we’re hoping to do with it and, you know, here’s, the plan, whatever join us on a call to talk about all that we’re going to do in this community with this new gripped, you know, it gives recognition to the funder, which, hey, what funder does not love recognition, but it also sets the tone again from the beginning that, hey, you’re, we expect you to care about what we’re doing, and we’re going to give you the opportunity to you hear about it firsthand for, you know, as we’re getting started, not a report two years later, and we want your feedback doesn’t mean you have to use every single piece of feedback, but you’re giving them a platform to connect with you from the very beginning of that of that program, the one that troubles me i see often is a list of board members that’s typical, but just a list of names here’s, our board and then he is this is president, the chair of the board, the treasure but there’s no little little bio mean, yeah, you know, i don’t want their home addresses, but give me a little richness and what? What their help me connect with your board so that i can see what makes them passionate about your work. Exactly. And i think, you know, a lot of organizations have tried to make their staff page very engaging. You know, like here is the email address for this person or here’s, the twitter account for the team or whatever. But then you go to the board page and, like you say, it’s, just a list of names, why not connect to their linked in profile or it doesn’t have to be again, yeah, doesn’t it to be there home phone number, but give it something so that you recognize it is a social space we’re working in and people could look that up linked in profile is a great idea. They’re about paige about dot com something exactly some depth. Okay, um, let’s, take a break, and when we come back, of course, amy sample ward stays with me, and i hope you do, too. Talking. 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We’re talking about online engagement with segments called get engaged one because there’s going to be and get engaged too, and maybe get engaged three with new social media contributor amy sample ward. You want to create a tone that is open and encouraging to how do we how do we encourage people to post and comment? Well, a lot of organizations, i think, struggle with that because they are waiting for it to happen magically, like this engagement fairy is going to go about their community, and then everyone is just going to give them lots of ideas. So part of it is, you know, asking questions versus just posting here is thie information, you know? What do you think about it or we’re thinking about doing, you know, every friday we have ah, staff brainstorm, what do you do on fridays? You know, things that don’t require you to go research something to come back with a response, you know, that starts to build ah, little bit of engagement over time, and then people just get used to talking with you in that space, but the other part of it that’s a little bit more proactive is actually listening to the community, see? See who else is out there that maybe follows you that every time they post a question, everybody starts replying, you know? And and just an influencer exactly. And using the word influencer jargon jail whenever it’s called lawrence was perfectly fund-raising jail. So but there are rules. There are boundaries and rules on this show. Only i put people in jogging owes your first time. I think we’re changing the rules. We’re gonna have trouble all right? Down, sir. And influence or influences? Yes, but i think that that word has gotten overused by, like, you know, just by certain platforms that are supposed to just magically calculate, you know, what’s your influence of influence school and all of those things. And people forget that it’s totally contextual. You may have someone that has five followers, but every time they post every one of those five followers responds, and someone could have five thousand followers and that a single person did anything you know. So just because that person has, quote unquote more clout because so many more people follow them and yeah, exactly. And they’re connected to so many other people that have lots of followers, that person that gets everyone of their followers to take action every time. Well, they have way more influence in my book, you know? So don’t just look people up, and then look how many twitter followers they haven’t think, oh, great, they’re on our influence or less, but really look at who’s, who tweeted your blah glink that got everyone to click through, you know who posted about you on facebook and had all their friends like it, et cetera, and then connect with those people personally, like send them an email or, you know, facebook, messenger or whatever and say, we know that you’re amazing, the community listens to you, you know, you’re you’re so smart, whatever pump them up on, then say we’re wondering if maybe you wanted to give some of your insights about this project we’re doing, and for the next two days, you know, you could post about it and and will put put it on our facebook page or you can tweet for us from this event we’re doing tonight. So they’re tweeting from your organizational account and from their own, and so all of those people that normally respond. Are now responding to the organization’s account, you know, so it builds their credibility as well. I’m i’m so smart and recognize that, you know, i’ve been tapped for this, but you get a steal a little bit of that is an organization, you know, i’m going to guess you don’t think much of the there is a there is a site that i mentioned a cloud with a k k o ut where once in a while, you know, you get something you got somebody give you plus one crate chaos on for professionalism or something. I’m going to guess you don’t think too much of people’s klout scores, i do not write, okay? Because i don’t i don’t think it takes into consideration the context, you know, like i was saying it it’s such a rudimentary kind of algorithm, and you go in there and i’ll be ranked with someone that i’ve never heard of with the same score on the same topic, and i think, well, either my score now is really low cause i don’t know that person or it’s totally inflated, and we’ve never met, you know? And so what? It just doesn’t make sense. Okay, especially when you can earn points by bringing people into the platform. I don’t think that algorithm works. All right, why don’t you leave us? We with a parting thought about engagement, something way haven’t talked about yet, i how about a challenge? And then we can talk about that in the next segment, so i would say for the next month, try to ask some questions and then next time we can talk about what you do after that what’s, the next step up the ladder, now that you’re asking questions scene, if people are responding, what kinds of questions do they answer their questions? That is just crickets, you know, eso try and pay attention to what about the question, you know, is different for the ones that are responding, and once that don’t get response and the next time we’ll talk about the action part. Okay, exactly next time, which will be get engaged to will be the call to action. Exactly. Amy sample ward, our social media scientist blogger for the stanford social innovation innovation review membership director for intend the non-profit technology network and her sight is aimee mann sample war dot org’s or dot com they both direct. Okay, amy, sample ward dot ford and you forgot one important title, which is the new est jargon jail keeper? No, i didn’t forget that was actually intentionally left that we’re gonna have trouble with boundaries. You’ve just created such an open, collaborative environment. There are limits, teo. Everything you’re going to learn this. Ok, thank you very much for being in studio a real pleasure and my thanks. Also, of course, to andrea nirenberg next week, your year end campaign. I was a blackbaud its conference b b con on monday, just this past in washington, d c and next week i’ll play the first of eight interviews that i did at that conference. This one will help you plan your year end campaign, and this is not a coincidence to see how now we’re in the fourth quarter. It’s october year end. You see this? This doesn’t just happen. These things have actually thought about strategically. Our legal team returns also next week. Gene takagi and emily chan from the non-profit exempt organizations law group in san francisco. What will they have? If you join the linked in group, you’ll know before the show because i don’t know yet and the linked in group, of course we have people from washington, d, c, peoria, illinois, and south carolina and pakistan. Are you in angie nierenberg when she departed actually told me oftheir that she’s going to posts a resource checklist on the linked in group and also the facebook page? So go to the lincoln group to find that i have my chronicle of philanthropy podcast called fund-raising fundamentals it’s a ten minute monthly podcast you’ll find on the chronicle of philanthropy website. 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